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Over the last few years of being single, I've had brief dating experiences. And when I mean brief I mean BRIEF! Usually it's one or two dates or I get shot down completely. My problem is, why do sisters have to say, "I think you are an amazing guy but...." I hate that line. Just say you don't like me as anything more than a friend, you don't think it would work, and that is it. Don't try to put me on a pedestal when you shoot me down. That is ridiculous. Now, I'm not speaking from anything that happened recently, was just something I thought about. I think dating is retarded. Why can't it be like the old days. Man is introduced to hot woman from another tribe, they get married, have 86 kids, they live happily ever after. LOL!
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Oh well... Back to the drawing board...
sorry to hear it, pal
What happend?
I guess I felt she was more of a friend than a potential marriage mate. I tried. But she could tell I wasn't in it 100%. It wasn't fair to either of us to continue things. Maybe it's just bad timing. I don't know... Raising kids alone and all the other responsibilities that come with being an adult consume my time and energy. I guess I don't have the energy to commit to another person at the moment.
wow. are you serious? im sorry. i feel bad for her too. REALLY bad for her.
I have a "wall" I need to break down before I will be ready for anyone. I think that is why I had hot and cold feelings toward my relationship with her. So my goals are to make all the meetings, increase my service time, be a more nurturing father like I once was, make more time for study, change my diet, and make sure I go to the gym. I think I've let myself become hardened a bit. Right now I have no inner peace. So I'm going to stick to the goals I have laid out. It will make me more sound in mind and body. And who knows, maybe one day things will be different between Jessie and I. I'm certainly not taking the breakup well either. But, we have agreed to in time see each other again as friends.
i know. that is why you need to BE FRIENDS for a while. you knew you had a wall before, knew you needed to increase service etc and you hurt a good girl in the process.
like im BIG on backing you guys up on how majority of the girls are whack, cause about 80% of em are. but when you do things like that, you hurt someone, you cant wonder how maybe SOME of these girls act whack cause of what guys have done to them? like DONT play with feeling people. i can see if you are NOT compatible, or someone is mental etc. BUT just cause you have a "wall" or "you're not ready" or "you need to increase service and meetings" will mess the girl up. ESP since you know all this before. ya know what i mean?
Yeah, I see what you're saying. I think good will come out of it though. In time...
just dont hurt anyone else and TOTALLY work on yourself before you jump in the dating game again! :P
No, you're right. I'm not dating anyone until I have made some breakthrough changes and I am feeling like a million bucks.
We talked and are going to take a break for awhile and revisit things at another time.
good. is she ok?
She's pretty tough. I know she's upset, but she appreciated my honesty. When I'm ready, we're going to hang out again. I feel bad, she hasn't told her dad yet and he likes me a lot. I told her to just tell him we're taking time to reflect on things and to make adjustments and that we'll revisit things in the future.
so, you'd be mad if i starting going out with her?
I'd beat you senseless.
good. is she ok?
i hope the best for all of you
Thanks buddy.
It's kind of funny that I wrote this, because 3 months later I found someone who has been worth dating. LOL!
i think 90 percent of your comments end with a big, stupid, annoying "LOL!"
hahahhahaha
don't make me take out your other knee boy...
if you've read any of my previous posts you know i'm bitter. But lets see three months from now (and then from then) and we'll see. Ha i've learned not to post crap like that the hard way
I said she's worth dating, meaning she's been worth the time I have put in. Haha...
NICE! Perfect disclaimer! You know whats up
whas the point.. you got as far as the girl asking for your number already.
just seal the deal at that ponit.
i duno that's what this guy on the radio said he does! I personally think it's extremely tacky.
but i really don't care about "a lot of" money. as long as i have money for food and shelter i'm good
aw, not enough kamilas
yeah so.. i heard this on the radio, supposedly it's a proven way to mack it
and these days i wouldn't be surprised if it worked with witness girls too haha ..
guy goes to an ATM and looks through the receipts people left there - the ones with the highest account balance .. he takes. And then when a girl asks for his number, he pulls out a receipt and writes his number on the back of it.
girl notices later on that it's a bank receipt with a high balance and this must mean that the guy has lots of money
fun ensues
haha
thats a good idea!
my friend was telling me there's this book based on psychology on how to mack. and one of the suggestions is when you see a girl you like you talk to absolutely every other person she's with. go and meet all her friends but never approach her. she'll start asking crazy questions about you and then come over to introduce herself b/c it's like you're the big man on campus. i've seen guys do it and it completely works.
good for bagging gold diggers
yeah gold diggers are usually hot though so it works out i guess hahaha
back in 1997, i found one with 52,000 dollars, because i was planning on doing this. I still have it. I don't know what to do with it.
show it to your wife and say, "this is my OTHER account. one you don't know about. sorry. i just don't trust you with money."
obviously you want me to create a lot of chaos and confusion in Lauren's mind. That would be wrong, clearly.
haha relaxamo. I only deleted 2 posts.. simply because it was jacking up my screen. it was pushing the right margin all the way through and that is ghey. well those 2 posts had about a billion replies to them. YOU LOSE
Of all people, Ian lets Mr. Noreplybutton have the ability to delete.
what happened to this thread
ty being ghey.
What I find hilarious is that just about everything other than Matt calling me desperate was deleted. The whole point of this thread had nothing to do with searching for a woman. It had everything to do with stating how ridiculous the dating process is.
threaded MODD'd. take that
Just delete the whole thing...
this may be the dumbest argument ive ever witnessed. no, im not hitting reply, because the comments are getting
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don't give up dude.. sack her
there are a couple single girls in my hall but they are like.. age 17-20. Meaning they will all be married within like the next year so .. hurry up if you wanna meet any of them. haha
Hahaha... That's jail bait.
it is a very weird feeling when going out that most all the girls i know are married. i thought it was just me.
That's ok, half of them will probably get divorced. That seems to be the trend with people who get married at 21 or younger.
*gasp* that's an awful thing to say. but kind of true.
No reason to sugar coat it, ya know. I'm going to instill in my kids to wait. They'll have my real life example to look at, what I had to go through, to see that being 19 or 20 is a ridiculous age to get married. People change in those few years that follow, more radically than at any other age. That's not to say an older couple that gets married won't break up, but I think it's less likely. I would say 24 or 25 is a good age to get married.
i agree. i think it is sensible to wait. i mean, you change so much in those years between 18 and 25 or 26. plus who wants to be married any way. especially at 18. those are the golden years. you should be swingin' baby.
haha this is totally true. who wants to be tied down at such a young age. about 90% of the ones that were married at 21 or before (in my area) are already divorced...its really sad. you really dont know that you DO change...your needs and wants and outlook TOTALLY changes once you reach a certain age.
The funny thing is, you'd think parents would be telling their kids these things so as to avoid getting married so young. My parents didn't communicate with us, so its no wonder my family is dysfunctional, but I think it's important for a parent to sit down and have that talk with their son or daughter.
but thats the thing, most parents dont. then again you have the stubborn few who think they're in love and get married anyway too. like i know out here the majority of my friends, their parents, DID talk to them and warned them but they still did it anyway.
and then there are places maybe like where you live where its accepted and encouraged ya know.
I think there needs to be more talks from the platform about this issue. It's an increasing problem. It shouldn't be encouraged anywhere to marry too young. That is ridiculous. But you are right, some parents do talk to their kids and they should be commended. At least they tried.
theres been PLENTY of talks and articles....esp the newest ones to make sure of WHO you are marrying...etc. if ones dont want to take the advice, they suffer and reap what has been sown cause of their stubbornness or immaturity.
I asked a local girl out 2 weeks ago. & Rejected! So, yehp, a-traveling I shall go.
yikes! who was it, bro?
I've harnessed a new found talent... "Don't worry be happy" is my motto. Haha... There's no use worrying about having a mate. When it happens, it'll happen. You just have to do things that make you happy like hanging out with friends, a hobby, getting out in service with the friends, and look buff for the ladies so you can land a hotty. LOL! Like today for instance, I went to my meeting, I'm going to go to the gym shortly, then go on a bike ride for many miles, and tonight I'm going to kick back and eat some left over grilled chicken I made the other night. That is the perfect day to me. And, I didn't need a woman for it to be a perfect day. Sure, I'd rather get to do those things with a woman, but I know eventually I will get to do those things with a special someone, so no use in worrying.
No, just merely stating what I did and what I will be doing.
hey, dood, who was it!?
Your mom.
that wouldn't surprise me as much as you think it would, lol
LOL! That made me laugh hysterically. Give the guy a break! Haha...
I think he can do better than a middle-aged woman. LOL!
hey, she's single, and Bribo could be my stepson
not in the forum bruv. not sure if i wanna say at all actually. i don't know. maybe when i see you next i'll tell you about it.
no worries, bro. i'm mostly kiddin' with ya. personal matters.
Well it's not 'cause I'm embarrassed, it's 'cause she most likely wouldn't like her name exposed on here. Plus, I got message from her yesterday, so maybe we're still in negotiations! That'd be the ticket!
Good, maybe you won't have to be a drifter after all. LOL!!
crazy! i found out.
funny thing is-- i totally forgot about it and didn't ask anyone. it just popped up.
sooo weird.
You've got me puzzled & curious. Please call me mobile for a chat.
no worries, bro. everyone has had the hots for her. total heartbreaker.
Send her my way. I will have her eating from the palm of my hand.
HAHA! yes!
Oh Yeh rright bruv. Way to show respect to me.
Just kidding dude. Didn't mean anything by it. Was meant for a laugh.
Until she hears your music collection :)
come on now, you know rush gets the ladies...lol
I have muscles. That makes up for the rest. ;o)
by muscles he means dough.
You are mistaking me with Mike Schiano.
i dunno, you can have the muscles but that doesnt mean you have the brain...LOL
I am a non-degreed mechanical engineer. I'd say I'm sort of smart. LOL!
are you really that full of yourself? LOL!
Probably why I am womanless. Hahaha... I actually didn't mean that to sound like I am full of it. Just that I have have a brain and not some Walmart stock boy. LOL!
whats wrong with a walmart stock boy? my dad is a walmart stock boy.
Oh geez... You are busting my chops. But, I should have said...A professional couch potato. Haha...
hardy har har.
Hey bruv, a job is just a job. A job should only be 'cause we logically need to have them in order to pay the day to day living expenses.
Ok, what's that have to do with anything? Just remarking that I'm not dumb. Personally, I wish my job was to collect a paycheck without doing any work.
Obviously it takes a lot more brain power to engineer products than stock a shelf. That was the point.
apparently youre not as smart as you think. a job is only here temporarily to support kingdom interests. money will be worthless....
as are you.
was that too mean?
you guys are all stupid.
Haha... It's funny how this all started. I said I have muscles, Gina said muscles don't matter if you're dumb, I said I have a job that requires a brain, theremin says a job is a job, I say I only compared to show the complexity of the two jobs, and now I'm marked for death according to Punk Princess. LOL!! This site is crazy. Shut it down Ian!
shut YOU down.
Bring it teeny weeny.
Oh Yes, I know why you said it. The reason why I said what I said is because there's plenty of people that stock shelfs and have the capability to be engineers and choose not too, because they'd rather not deal with the stress of this world and rather focus their energies on more important things. Not the trivial things, such as jobs. There's a whole lot more I have to add but I'm tired of going back and forth, so I'll cut short my comment and officially retiring from this thread and the mainstream vs. indie thread and any other argumenative thread and I'm forcing myself to learn to keep more quiet.
Well, if you are single and kidless and want to pioneer, then that's a job for you. I have 2 kids to raise. Making 8 bucks an hour stocking shelves would not cut it. Not sure how we got to this point. If you choose a less complicated job for Jah's service that is commendable. But it depends on your situation.
wow. get a wife!
Ah, too much work. I like to be king of the castle. The term no longer applies once you say "I do".
dating is fine, but being engaged is rough!
at least for me it has been. just a lot of pressure to get stuff done, plus i'm getting sick and tired of driving home at night after hanging out.
I'll tell you what is rougher... Being divorced to a hag that thinks in her demented mind that you are evil and having non-stop arguments with her and feeling your head go off like a pressure cooker... Makes you never want to be married again...
*hugs*
really?
Thanks buddy.
Oh yeah... And Matt... I think you can survive till your wedding night. Haha...
;)
yeah i can sympathize with that (or empathize... whatever is the one that means i understand but never went through it)
that's why no kids and a really good pre-nup! (jk)
I'm hoping the new system comes before the kids grow up. I'm not sure if I want to deal with her for another 15+ years. Haha...
Hey look at it this way Matt, you have less than a month!
i need sleep...!
i got married
Barbie dolls don't count. haha...
you're a fool.
i think gfs rocks and socalgal are in loooooove
How did you know? SHHHH its a secret!!
HAHA OMG i didnt see this before.
ezabel is all the companionship i need
Aww... Thats perhaps the gayest saying of the day. You wear makeup, don't you? LOL!
Dude, i'm 29. The problem is you're competing with guys like me for the same women. And i'm pretty funny
ha not guys like me. ME!
HAHAHA! awesome.
Oh yeah... I forgot. You are pretty studly. Haha...
It's funny, the girls I don't really want to talk to or I am not interested in, I talk to with ease. The ones I'm attracted to, it's like someone glued my mouth shut. Haha...
Oh and... I'm not desperate Matt Kelly. LOL! Just kidding dude.
I'm still waiting to find out, lol.
The following will be in caps:
I WROTE THIS CUZ I WAS BORED... I AM NOT DESPERATE... OVER AND OUT...
i'll quote a line ben stiller used in starsky & hutch: "don't pretend to be something you're not. just be yourself. that's what's really cool."
you have to learn to be happy on your own and comfortable with the fact that you're single. that way when something comes along you'll be ready to handle that too. and you won't feel like a piece of crap if it doesn't work out or if nothing comes along as fast as you would like it. and realize too that meeting somebody isn't gonna be the magical moment that turns your life around, that's the stuff you gotta do before you meet someone.
you're only 27, keep doing the stuff you enjoy, focus on yourself, your spirituality, your kids, maybe try doing some new stuff and making new friends or going to parties or things you wouldn't normally do - without the intention of meeting somebody. let all that other stuff work itself out on its own, forcing it will never ever work.
A. WHOA BROTHERMAN IS ONLY 27? Dude... i thought you were 45.
B. Thats right Matt.. you tell him!... be yourself!
love your life and yourself oh yea and God. Everything else will come
holy crap i also thought brotherman was at least 40, i still think he's dave elliot too
we're like twins
HAHAHA thats so funny i always think of him as dave elliot too!
I am not desperate. I'm quite insulted you would say that Matt. I'd be beating you with my crutch if you were here. Now you have to clean my apt. It's a mess cuz I can't bend over to pick stuff up.
And Dave Elliot is the small nerdy type, whereas I'm the large, strong type. Pretty weak comparison...
Apparently peeps have read too much into this.
ok, that's my mistake. i made an assumption and i'm sorry. i didn't mean to insult you, and i would never compare you to anyone else. ESP not somebody who throws parties to play atari. from what i know of you you're a cool guy with a lot of good qualities and i didn't mean to say anything mean. it was meant in good fun but after reading what i wrote i can see how it could come off kind of nasty.
and i would love to clean your apartment but i have a few things of my own to do so...
If I were desperate, I'd be married to some toothless hag in South Dakota. I've been single for almost 4 years. And I'm not about to jump into anything even now. I was merely bringing out a point that bothered me in the dating scene. And right now I'm turned off by dating and am not pursuing anything.
Send some women over to clean then. Haha... I'm tripping over junk. Haha...
how could dating be dumb? it's a means to an end, an end you crave like a junky! dating is supposed to be fun and exciting. you just haven't met the right person.
yeah be more open minded or something? If someone likes a different kind of music just let it go and don't go on and on preaching why your view is better. Ya know? Remember girls like a listener. And remember you're still young don't act like an old fogey! (not saying that you DO just sayin, DONT) Party it up. haha :)
I just like to cause trouble with the mucic thing on here. haha... Arguing whether Bon Jovi or Fall Out Boy is better is silly if people really mean it.
I'm not a partier. I'm happy playing sports and doing outdoor stuff. Unfortunately when you have kids, you become an old fogey in some respects. Comes with the territory. Another thing is, no one should have to completely change their personality. I will not do that, cuz I wouldn't be me then. If you are looking for a smooth talker, that isn't me. Those guys do well with dating. They are also meatheads in my opinion. I'm like an onion. You need to peel away the top layer. Unfortunately, not many want to do that. Oh well. Their loss. They can save their one-liners about me being an amazing person too.
well you can be an amazing person, but you're just not for them ya know. i've met a lot of brothers who're so cool and amazing BUT they're just not for me.
and you're right, dont EVER change your personality for no one. if someone is going to love you, they're going to love you AS IS!!
also, like toxicgirl said, travel, get out t here and meet some sisters...there are SO many sisters than there are brothers. AND look at it this way, the ones that you do meet and dont work out, could be a blessing from jah because he knows what you've been through before & you're being spared the drama again!
Definitely agree with that last part. I'd rather be spared the "amazing" line. I think I'd rather hear, "Lets just be friends".
Next time you hear the "amazing" line reply with "Tell me something I dont know"... that usually makes them think twice, well thats what I usually say...
well i didn't mean party as in drink and be stupid, i meant like, party in whatever your way of partying is! Haha... outdoors stuff is cool lots of people are into it
meatheads and smooth talkers are dumb
and yes i like to cause trouble with music and kids it's something to pass the time sometimes!! hahaha
Well... You'd be surprised what some Witnesses call partying. To me, a weekend of baseball is the best. And I am unhappy now since I sprained my ankle and will be on the DL for awhile. :o(
Trouble is cool with me, so long as you are funny. ;oP
be cocky funny!
Why can't it be like the old days. Man is introduced to hot woman from another tribe, they get married, have 86 kids, they live happily ever after.>>>>>>>>why you think dating is retarded
Because I suck at it.
no i meant, that statement that you made is the reason why you think dating sucks. have a different outlook and it wouldn't "be so dumb" its all about perception. i loved dating (yes there were times it was hard... but it was from outside sources) And dude there are SOOOOO many more single sisters in the truth that are older (divorced or widowed) than brothers.
my mom has a joke: brothers over 40 in the truth are the same as parking lots....all the good ones are taken, and all thats left are handicapped. hahaha
HEY!...
dont worry ty, my moms holding out for you.
I have a joke: sisters in their late 20's in the truth are the same as parking lots....all the good ones are taken, and all thats left are handicapped. hahaha
i think it's more like this: witness girls like parking lots, they're either taken, too young, or ugly
a joke!! i'm serious i was joking.
its not ugly cause ive seen some UGLY ones that're married and my friends and i are like "WHOA how'd they get that person" LOL
LOL!
Matt, they are never too young... you just have to wait till they turn legal...
Yeah well, I've yet to see that. I think that's an untrue statement. At least in this area. And I am 27. Someone pushing 40 isn't what I have in mind. So how isn't dating dumb again?
believe me i wasnt trying to set you up with my mom...like i said, shes holding out for ty.
Yea. I can't wait.
i agree with this. if you are a single brother in the truth it is so much easier. a single sister has a much tougher time-there just aren't as many.
maybe you should travel.
Make a list of sisters for me then. I'll cross off names as I go. LOL!
I dont think anyone should travel far distances just to find a mate. If someone does do that, they will have too high hopes and if they dont find anyone their depression and sadness would get worse. Just wait, and be patient someone might show up, you never know... just dont be too picky because you may just turn down some of the best options out there...
no, i didn't mean travel far distances. i wouldn't do that, and wouldn't recommend it to someone else. then you look like you are desperate and "on the hunt." but it doesn't hurt to go visit other congregations your friends attend, or tag along to their assembly. maybe you meet someone, maybe not. if you concentrate more on having a nice time with friends you shouldn't be disappointed.
Yeh, well, I'm gonna travel far distances & I am on the hunt. There... I said it. A match hasn't arrived right in front of me, so I have to go seeking. I think one can still travel and not be desperate, as long as the travel is for other purposes as well. Like I love travel in itself & want to explore other places... meanwhile if a future potential wife comes along during the times of travel, I obviously wouldn't oppose starting such a relationship just because it was on my faraway travels. I'm just as open to a relationshiop that comes to me in my immediate area too.. just that it hasn't happened. And I can't say I know anymore girls around here that I like and haven't tried seeing if she likes me as well. In other words, I can't find a girl that likes me back around my locale. Actually got asked out by a girl a couple days ago, but shame that it was me that wasn't attracted to her. So, had to kindly decline that start of that relationship. So, so far, looks like I have to rely on traveling the world like a pikey. I'm not very likable in these parts it seems. :(
I met a nice sister in Texas. We are now good friends. You never know who you are going to meet in your travels. It could be a person that'll end up being your wife one day. You just can't be gung ho like some and propose marriage after knowing them for a month. LOL! The things some people do amaze me. I try to remind myself that any person I marry, will be with me for eternity. So I have to make sure it's a ripe apple I'm picking, not a rotten one at the bottom of a barrel.
what if it's near the middle of the barrel... sweet but a tad mealy, maybe a little out of season but somewhat refreshing nonetheless??
Hahaha.... Well I guess if you can stomach it, go for it.
Yeh, well, I'll most likely spend more than a month getting to know a lady. ...my "travels" are gonna be more like mini-settlements, rather then speedy vacations. Something like 4 months there, 12 months there, 14 months there, so on... well hopefully I find a sweet lady before I reach "so on."
What kind of job do you have? That's an interesting lifestyle.
Well, I want to start the journey next year. Has nothing to do with my current job. I'm temporarily employed at Bloomberg for a contract project in global corporate news syndication and if I'm hired as a Bloomberg employee at one of their locations abroad, like London, Sydney, or Frankfurt, I'd accept it - not that it's likely I can expect such a thing. If I'm hired to work in NYC or Princeton where I'm at now, I'd decline taking the job and set sail... going to different countries with different jobs... I got a real plan though, as crazy and unguided as it sounds. Sounds foolish to maybe everyone, but whatever.. gotta live your own life and follow your own passion, not someone else's idyllic perspective of living. Yeh bruva.
What area are you from? Because I agree with you the good and available sisters in this area have all been taken, its like a drought. I still believe though that there will be some potentials that will move into the area... I hope the fountains will come on and the options will once again flurish in the area... Im probably wrong, but I dont have any other option, but to be patient...
Pennsylvania, bro. theres tons of them out there. just sitting there. waiting.
Dude... PA girls are weird no offense to any PA girls, but from my experience they are a little weird... (I mean there are some exceptions, but the majority are weird)
ehhh, i'll half agree. you're just used to the girls over where you are. folks from other regions will always think folks in neighboring regions are weird. s'the way it is.
stillllll, there IS something strange about PA girls. folks over there are just raised a lil differently and it's that fundemental difference that shapes regionally unique adults. and you can't... or shouldn't fault it.
I dont fault it, but what you said makes sense. How you are raised and where you are raised makes a huge difference in what qualities or personalities you acquire. And I suppose that this difference is what makes the PA girls a little weird...
come to CA there are plenty. lol
Oh really? You should send them out this way, to Jersey, they will love it.... we have everything Cali has the Beach, the Mountains and the City... see what you can do and get back to me...
um ive been to jersey. i wouldnt wish that on my worst enemy! LOL JK
have you ever been to CA?
Think I have a chance in Cali? I know you question wasn't for me.. but I'm curious about my own potentials. haha
I have been to CA, its a great place... but its too far away from NYC... When you say you have plenty single girls, whats the age range?
19 - 25
Interesting, you dont find many good single sisters around this are between the ages of 21-25 that are still available. And why are those sisters still single? Is there a drought of brothers out there?
well its not BIG to get married young here like it is there ya know. there are like 20 girls to one guy. AND a lot of the guys here opt for worldly girls. its strange. but yeah they're not tore up girls either. def good looking.
WELL, now that you say it that way (20 - 1), when would be a good time to visit... haha
its SoCal...anytime is a good time! LOL
Forget New York City man. You'll have Angel City & Hollywood. What's it about New York that you gotta hang on to? People think I'm weird for wanting to leave this area completely. But, I think it's weird wanting to stay in the NJ suburbs. I'm so unstimulated here... I need excitement. New experiences. Not forever and a day of the same boredom I grew up in. The only thing I look foward to each week is a band practice on a Saturday or Sunday... other than that, what am I doing here? Maybe Applebees once in awhile for an appetizer and cocktail, watching a lame movie at someone's apartment, Philly once a month, and maybe New York like 3 times a year nowadays or whatever. What kind of living is that? Bleak.
Well thats because you dont live less than 20 minutes from the city. NYC could be practically considered a weekly thing for me. I agree with change, but there are certain things you will miss if you move away from this area...
Miss what... Paying the outrageous prices for housing? The only thing I'd miss is going into the city for sporting events.
The only thing I really go to New York for is shows. And any proper city has shows. There's a funny experience to relate... One time I got into an argument (not really an argument but like a psuedo-debate) with someone because they didn't see any difference between London and Brooklyn. They were saying like, I don't see why you love London so much, it's everything Brooklyn is.. why don't you just move to Brooklyn. Ummm... no, not at all.
My distance from NYC has nothing to do with it. I drive an hour and 15 minutes one way, 5 times a week for work. It's 52 miles one way. I can go to NYC just as often as the next person. There was a time when I went to NYC every Monday night. Apparently you just like NYC a whole bunch more than I do. haha Which is coo. Everyone has their favourites. If you love NYC that much... than yeh, you should stay near NYC and not move away.
Well, I dont know how much I LOVE it. I mean, I would leave it if I had a better opportunity to, but its hard to compare other cities to NYC... I guess its just that Im used to it and its a good way to just clear your mind. You go into the city you walk around and you can just loose yourself and sit back and watch other people... Than you come home and get back to your life...
Guess you gotta evaluate and weigh the options. Personally, I've already decided to move away from this region, as much as the friends in the band are trying to get me to move to Philly (which I almost listened to.. and probably think I'll still be doing). I think the fact is, in my own situation, I can't expect any new girls to move into this area. The new ones that are gonna be moving into the area from this point on, are gonna be married. I highly doubt a single girl around my age is gonna be coming to town.. I live in a place catered to married couples, families, and the aged.. so highly unlikely I'll be seeing any prospects staying here.
As sad as that sounds its true. Its the same in my area too, not many single sisters in my age group will move here... this area is catered for people who can afford to live here and most single sister or brother cant afford it...
yeah you do live in an area to where being married is THE THING to do. it seems like you're an outcast if your not married. *this is MY opinion
and being in areas like this you have to be careful cause there are wrong reasons for ones wanting to be married too instead of genuine love ya know.
*again MY opinion
everyone should do what makes them happy, not just cuz it's what other people are doing
and that is the way it should be....but majority of the time its not.
You're rright. I do feel like an outcast. Don't worry, I'll only marry out of love & only date out of love. Otherwise life will be miserable. So, in the meantime, moving from exciting city to exciting city will be what I do to enjoy life.
Glad I'm not the only one that feels like an outcast. Haha... It was funny, when I went to a congregation in South Texas, an elder there was introducing me to all the single sisters. So it definitely depends on the area. Some areas don't have many available brothers. That was one of them.
definitely. the way you are raised has a huge impact on who you turn out to be as an adult. like in pennsylvania, you can marry into your own family, or eat horse meat, and paint chips. you know, it's not really THAT weird. you cant really fault them on it. you'd think it was normal if you were born there.
hahaha... good point, well stated.
I watched a little kid eat paint chips off a window sill one time while working for a drilling company in East Orange. haha...
Oh no, hopefully he didn't get lead poisoning.
Madchester, NJ
I hate dating b/c it's uncomfortable and weird starting out. But once I get past that initial shyness I like it.
I think I always manage to attract the wrong women. That could be why it sucks for me.
hey they may not have chosen their words as well as they could have, but at least they didn't lead you on for an extended period of time.
True. Those women should be shot. Haha
with spitballs!
Uh....Yeah, that's what I meant. ;oP
Women's Lib man...we have a choice now! haha
Yeah, it needs to be reversed. LOL!
oh shush!
maybe your insistence that rush is a good band is keeping the ladies away! lol
Or maybe they see that I am an Adonis type male and feel unworthy. haha
LOL um o-k. *nbl*
You know it! ;oP