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It's in these lyrics I make a statement!

reaf by reaf · Aug 27, 2003 · 335 views · Journal

This is very long and to sum it up, it's about Judging others & Myself, if your interested proceed..

I must Eliminate my ENEMY!!

Ohh, Well, I lived a pretty normal life, grew up with no more drama than I can count on my rings, & I only wear 3. Always had a small group of friends because I only hung out with people I trusted. Which was fine, because I never cared to know this person or that person, or this situation & that situation. I never wanted to be known by everyone. I was never one to hang out with the whole tri state area and go from this party to that party to meet more people, to me it was just trouble, it was trouble to know more people. Something is always bound to happen when you know more people for some reason.
I think like this because it's partly because how I was raised. ? Guilty by association I was always reminded, So I figured the less people I hung out with, the more people I judged, the easier life would be, because of less drama, and it is, I can't say it hasn't helped. However somewhere along the line, I started to judge everyone, everyone on there past, their now, their truth, their lies. & Only last night at the meeting did I actually see it for the first time. The brother had bible highlights, and he highlighted a scripture about judging others, and how we shouldn't do it. So I thought to myself, Oh my goodness, why do I do that. & I do it all the time! Who was I to be judging people on what they did,, What they DID. As if I was free of a past.! We all had our share of trouble & I certainly wasn't free of it. When did it start that people would tell me things about people I hardly knew, and me actually care about it, it was not me.

I know for myself I don't like when people judge me just on how I look, whether it be they say I'm prissy or high maintenance, when I hear that, I get taken back, because I am so not those things. Fortunate for me no one really knows my deal, know one really knows my past, at least to my knowledge. So I don't think I ever got judged on my past. I can only imagine how others feel when people judge them on there past.
So I look at it like this on one side by judging people it helped me stay out of more trouble then I could have gotten into, but on the other side, who the heck was I to judge other people. It had to stop. I don?t want to be a person I myself hated, an enemy.

So in the words of DISTURBED
I MUST ELIMINATE MY ENEMY!!

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30 Comments

walkngplaygrnd #1 walkngplaygrndOG 2003 offtopic

I didn't read this yet, but does your apostrophe not work or something? everywhere there should be an apostrophe there's a question mark . . . . I'm just saying, though . . .

reaf #1.1 reafOG 2002

I know, I duno why that happend.

walkngplaygrnd #1.2 walkngplaygrndOG 2003 stupid

grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

tinser #1.3 tinserOG 2002

i'm confused...since when did these yellow highlights that say stupid and offtopic begin? And shouldn't if be "off topic" not "offtopic"?

iwz #1.3.1 iwz

this is a brand new thing on eZabel. I just set it up a few minutes ago.

ok4now #1.3.1.1 ok4nowOG 2002

bin noticin'...kewl

ok4now ok4nowOG 2002 stupid

this is a test...please ignore

ok4now ok4nowOG 2002

whatever.........

iwz iwz

this was marked stupid so it could be filtered out if you only wanted to see non-stupid comments

ok4now ok4nowOG 2002

and this filter would be....?

iwz iwz

coming soon!

ekulu ekuluOG 2002 iwz

and here!

ophelia #1.3.2 opheliaOG 2003

I think the appearance of these highlights might have some strange connection to Mars' closeness to the earth...Don't ask me how I know, I'm not allowed to divulge anything else

skaorsk8 #2 skaorsk8OG 2002

please move this to the music forum. thank you.

iwz #2.1 iwz

nah, it's fine as a journal entry.

skaorsk8 #2.1.1 skaorsk8OG 2002

what determines if it needs to be moved??? sooo confusing. i wanted it moved so i could edit those ?'s

rocksupastar #2.1.1.1 rocksupastarFounder

you greedy little... lol

skaorsk8 skaorsk8OG 2002

hhahah just wait till you see what i got for you

rocksupastar rocksupastarFounder

got for me for what?

malibu #2.1.1.2 malibuOG 2001

what determines if it should be moved is if the person who wrote it wants to move it. if she didn't rite it in forums she didn't want it in forums and then you leave it alone.

walkngplaygrnd #3 walkngplaygrndOG 2003 informative

okay . . . and now for a REAL comment . . .
yeah ummm, I get judged on my past EVERY DAY. There is not a day that passes that someone doesn't bring up something I've done in my past that I'd much rather forget. But it's gotten to the point now that I even FUEL it myself, just to avoid getting angry about hearing it from someone else. It is exceedingly difficult not to judge others, based on what we've heard, or a superficial, cursory meeting, but it's not really our place to do so, I agree. I try to give everyone the benefit of the doubt, because my friends, I mean, my REAL friends, know that at heart, I'm not a bad guy, even if I don't make the best first impression. All you can do now is resolve not to CONTINUE to judge others - any judging you've done in the past has indeed molded you into who you are now, and was perhaps even a protection in some ways, as you mentioned. But just try not to judge books by their covers, just as you dislike when people do to you - the good ol' Golden Rule. Sorry that response was so long.

starshiptrooper #4 starshiptrooperOG 2003

unfortually you're right. we ALL judge others. Then when WE're judged we FREAK. just something on my 9,562,456 additional personality things i got to work on....

cerbrato #5 cerbratoOG 2002 informative

nobody judges me cuz i'm the greatest more perfect best looking kid ever and GTIs rule

skaorsk8 #5.1 skaorsk8OG 2002

both of those statements are true.

fivezero #5.1.1 fivezeroOG 2003

both of those guys are goons and love to post in journals they don't read or wish to comment on. shaaaaa! anyway, yeah, this is extremely tough stuff. i've always been extremely accepting of all peoples, but it still remains extremely hard NOT to judge people. when it comes to the past...we may be through with the past, but the past aint through with us. someone will always remember stuff we've done and bring it up again and again. but, regardless, it's our future we're busily cultivating. enjoy that.

skaorsk8 #5.1.1.1 skaorsk8OG 2002

hmm....you're right, i didn't read this before. interesting, reaf. you know i mock you for your spellings, but do respect you. there's a kid I judge...because he shouted something REALLY inappropriate at a place with a lot of witnesses, and my sister happened to be there and heard it. i hardly ever take her places, so this really upset me. i kinda bad-mouth this kid for saying the ridiculously rude thing he said...but i've said enough stupid stuff in my life that's way worse. so why i judge him...i don't know. reaf, you make sense.

ophelia #5.1.2 opheliaOG 2003

WHY ARE YOU FEEDING HIS SELF RIGHTEOUSNESS?!!?..Haha..& yo cerato, yer dad better let us record in his studio for free....If not we might have to just trash the place....

malibu #6 malibuOG 2001

incidentally this is sort of my most major pet peeve:
when people tell stories and add in a certain part of the story that was not needed to shed a bad light on somebody else you don't know well. I HATE THAT~!!! and people do it all the time!!! just let me judge for myself!!

bozo #6.1 bozoFounder

I agree tremendously. It bothers me why they say, "oh he's bad..." I prefer to be cautious with new comers and decide for myself wether or not I think they are a positive influence on me, personally. And I don't tell anyone how I feel, or encourage others to avoid them. Its more of a personal decision for me. But I do watch out for friends I see getting too close to something dangerous. And I do appreciate when someone gives me a heads up if I'm in that situation.

malibu #6.1.1 malibuOG 2001

exactly!! i don't want people telling bad stories about me to people i've never met so why do others have to do it? if its a seriously wrong thing i need to know about fine, otherwise maybe they've changed.

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