Single
by I used to want to fall in love. I used to want to taste the gentle, sweet feeling of falling in love, the nudge of possibilty that you get when you realize that something could be between you and another person. After the last wedding i went to, i realized that maybe it would be a good thing for me to get married in the future, to work towards that as a goal. But then i though about it more. It would probably be a lot better for me to remian single right, maybe for as long as i could. But i woudlnt want to be one of those 35-40 year old guys with out a wife, becasue those kind of people kind of weird me out. What do i really see for my future? Should I really want and expect a future wife who will be by my side Serving Jah? Or should i go it alone? What's so great about being married? What better freedom could i have being single? The oldest age around here for sinlge, never married people is about 30. After that, it seems that the prospect of such a person gettin married is very small. Should i try to enjoy singleness for hte next decade then try to get married before i reach my "expiration date"?
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resign yourself to it. it makes everything a lot easier.
don't listen to MK. the ones who are 35-40 and single and weird haven't DONE anything with their lives...never went to MTS or worked in regional in another country, or did temp work at bethel or worked on an assembly hall. use spiritual goals as measurements.
being almost 30 and single ain't that bad . . . okay it is . . . but i resent that whole "expiration date" thing . . .
you should come to my hall. They have lots of older single girls no one wants like Danny hahaha.
There's lots of single girls at my hall, but a lot of them are 19, 20, or 21. All the older ones are married.
dude, i can totally set you up with a sister in my hall..ok, so shes collecting social security..but...when youre 70 or older, youre allowed to say anything to anyone, sleep as much as you want, get one of those awesome pride jazzy scooters, and no one says anything if you show up with blue hair. its cake.
and you can steal! "i was confused"
"swarm, swarm!"
seinfeld!
such a great episode. it was on last night. "This book has been flagged. It's been in the bathroom."
"can you spare a square?"
hahaha, i love the expiration date, lol. Dude.. there is no such thing... do whatever you need to do, and who cares what everyone else does... cause in the end, if you get married for any other reason than loving the person, you wont be happy.
if you're 15+ and single, you're the biggest loser this world has ever seen. just quit
thats only the rule if you're from pennsylvania though
You got that right, that's why I have to move to NJ
HAHAHAHAHA!!!!! No joke!! They marry 'em YOUNG in the area my brother lives in! My cousin is almost 23, and she's single, and she said she feels like the old maid of her congregation.
And some of the older happily married sisters like to speculate as to why you would be visiting ppl an hour away. Translation: You must be dating someone to drive that gosh darn far!!!
yeah...after you turn 18, you better be married or you're an old maid there...haha, its ridiculous
yeah i was in Pennsy for only a short time and people were shocked when i said i wanted to be single for a while. There was this one guy we hung out with who was WAY cute but he was a senior in high school and I was I think 22.. I didn't even THINK of him as an "option" .. and this other guy who was like 19 i think who I also just saw as a friend, but people thought i liked these guys and tried hooking me up sorta kinda. Cos you know, how can a 22 year old girl in PA WANT to be single. Haha.
that's how it over here up in the desert. people are so bored out there that all they do is get married (or do "married things" without the benefit of marriage). Most of them get married really young up there. At the convention with them you'll see tons of really really young couples
i have a niece that's hot looking... ;)
Adam seriously..don't make marriage a goal and then try and work towards it. It'll never work that way. Keep it as an option and just leave it there. If you find a girl (I'm assuming your looking for a girl) then you'll find a girl. If you don't, you can't just go marry one for the heck of it..well you could (that's what Vegas is for), but you'd miss out on the falling in love part.
"(I'm assuming your looking for a girl)" that made me giggle like a russian school girl.. that was good
i agree. you find the right person when you're not even looking. and if you don't, you are still ok b/c you are occupied w/ even higher goals.
and the harder you look, the least likely you are to find someone (seems to be the way).
i love how married people give these kinds of answers
well we would know!
dude, new system. age doesn't matter. you'll have forever.
what if he dies before then. Then hes doomed.
dude, if he dies before then, he's automatically resurrected. BONUS!
haha sweet xtra life!
one up
the infamous green mushroom
yeah, but he wouldnt get married then
There are a lot of people in my area who are single, and are in their mid 30's, and a few that are even older (like 40's), but they don't seem to mind. They are doing what they can to serve Jehovah, and they have focused on that first and foremost. Some are Pioneers, others have gone to Bethel, or served where the need is greater. There are others who got married around 30 or mid-30's, but they have put their focus on serving Jehovah first, in their younger days, and the blessing of finding a marriage mate seemed to follow. As long as you are following Jehovah's direction, and serving him to the fullest, then the blessings will be sure to follow.
men never have an expiration date... thats just the way it is... they just become "elligable bachelors"... dont worry.
Ahaha or so they think!
please . . . that isn't very encouraging . . .
Seriously, enjoy your singleness! It truly is a gift, trust me! You're young enough and just keep putting Jah first and everything else will fall into place.
And what exactly are we supposed to enjoy about it?
You're free to do whatever. Spend more time in service, hanging out with your friends. Traveling without worrying about saving much money for another person. There's just so much!
and what if all your friends are married and hanging out with them is just a constant reminder of how single you really are?
Exactly. It's depressing to think that I'm probably the oldest single brother in my hall.
I didn't think guys thought like that...
You seem nice, you should come to Pennsylvania and meet a friend from my congregation. She loves California.
are you serious, gab? you've never heard the "DR" say that before?
WOW you need to move down south. There are so many singles out here its unbelieveable.
I don't mean to be insulting, but I've lived in Southern California and I never want to move back.
I'm sorry, why? Bad experience or you don't like it here?
Many bad experiences. Few good ones. And I really don't like the area that much anyway.
I'm sorry to hear that! Was it OC, LA or SD? I'm in OC. Serious you get a whole different world with each county - strange huh?
It was San Diego County. I lived in a small town called Ramona.
I know where that is. YOu know next time you're down So Cal OC way, let me know, my friends and i will show you how fun and how cool the friends are here. Take it there are some bad ones, i'm not denying, but we have fun and make-do with what we have! I'm telling you each county is SO different from the next....
Oh yes, I know what you mean, when i was like 18 all my friends were getting married, but i didn't let it bum me out. There's always ONE person that's not married that you can hang out with.
yeah i have an ex in CA you can have. A little needy and naggy, but ok after you get over that and about, oh, 58 other quirks. I'll hook you up...
LOL thats the majority of the girls here! LOL Thats why i have more male friends!
i just went to lunch with 4 friends, all who are married, man im i a loser! wait no! they're losers! seriously being single rocks
amen to the single life brutha-man....
AMEN!
dude, you should bid on this.
http://cgi.ebay.com/ws/eBayISAPI.dll?ViewItem&item=2980012461&category=1467
HAHAHAH that is hysterical
yo schiano you should set up one of those for you since you're unemployed
it disturbs me that there are 11 bids on this . . .
Thats crazy! there's some DESPERATE peeps out there!
$38.99 isn't going to pay for much as far as college textbooks and expenses go. That will go towards one cheap used text.
don't worry - there's still time left. I have yet to place my bid
don't you dare milt!
man,i could use some money...if only i knew it was this easy!
first of all, ian what were YOU searching for that you found that? and i bet those 11 bids are all dirty old men.
my bachelor party is gonna have tons of ice cream!
you are so not past your expiration date. your stamp that says it is still wet. just be you and keep on progressing with jehovah and having a grand ole time. :)