Why am I so shallow?
by Upon pondering the question of singleness these past few years, I have come to decide that I am my own worst enemy. I have some preconceived notions about what I want physically in a companion, and I believe that makes me limited as far as my options go. Granted, to me, its the spirituality that's most important, you know, someone I can study with, go out in service with, someone who enocurages me to keep putting up that "fine fight", but at the same time I want someone I can hang out with, someone I can talk to anytime, someone that's a great friend. Most importantly, someone that will put up with me and ALL my MANY imperfections and "issues". All that, AND she's gotta be at LEAST a 7 out of 10. Perhaps I'm not in the position to be a "chooser". But in reality, why should I settle for less than I'd be happy with? According to SOME people (not me of course) my last couple of girlfriends were not that great-looking, but it wouldn't have mattered anyway, because we had "connections", and that makes all the difference. And believe me, I loved 'em to death. And then there's the issue of what I find (physically) attractive. I must admit that my #1 weakness is Latina women. Then Italian women. Then everybody else. But I really just haven't met anyone new lately (too busy staying at home chatting on ezabel i guess). Plus, I'm shy by nature, so when I meet new people, I have a tendency to not say much, or overcompensate by saying TOO much. It's a vicious paradoxical cycle. Thus is my plight. As an old friend would say, I guess I just have to "deal with it".
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i hope your old girlfriends dont come on here and read that they were " not... great looking "
whipppppish
. . . i don't know what you're talking about . . .
if you were an existentialist...things would be different
I caught that too! NUMBER 4
one of them has been EXTREMELY well hidden, though...
so well hidden that it's beyond me why anyone cares, lol
i'm tempted to take another point off of you...haha, because i just know it would bother you so very much
yeah, nobody is EVER going to find that...hahah
wow, you're whippin' everybody else at this.
LOL I was just thinking the same thing as I read that. You know after reading this journal entry I was just thinking that maybe you should find some more things to work on before you really make yourself the type of person you would like to date. I mean you can question yourself "would you date you if you were a nice girl?"
thats so sad to say about your past GF's. BUT you do have to be physically attracted to them, by your standards and its best to be picky because this is someone you're going to spend the rest of your life with!
*BTW if your ever in SoCal let me know, I have plenty of latina friends =)
My prescription: listen to "Lush Life" by John Coltrane/Johnney Hartman, you'll feel better.
www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/B000003N7K/102-2163710-1624124
Here is the lyrics, to sing along with your sorrow...
...Then you came along with your siren song
To tempt me to madness
I thought for awhile that your poignant smile
Was tinged with the sadness of a great love for me
Ah yes, I was wrong
Again, I was wrong
Life is lonely again and only last year
Everything seemed so sure
Now life is awful again
A trough full of hearts could only be a bore
A week in Paris could ease the bite of it
All I care is to smile in spite of it
I'll forget you, I will while yet you are still
Burning inside my brain romance is mush
Stifling those who strive
So I'll live a lush life in some small dive
And there I'll be
While I rot with the rest of those
Whose lives are lonely too
So, I don't know who you are, I don't know what you look like, and I don't know your personality other then on Ezabel. That being said, this is not an insult aimed towards you but just a comment.
You gotta think this way too: if a girl is really hott, why would she want to go out with me? Now, I know that's a real shot to the ego there but I know so many older brothers in my hall who always talk about all these hott girls and how they refuse to settle for anything but the perfect girl they have in their minds. That's real nice and sweet buddy, but I don't think their perfect hott girls would want them after taking one look at them and their personality. It's just not always the most realistic way to view things.
I know I'm not the prettiest girl in the world, heck I don't even think of myself as pretty. I know many girls personally who are better looking then I am..yet my boyfriend still tells me I'm beautiful because I'm beautiful to him..you can't just take people at face value,a lot of things contribute to beauty. And I'm not saying go marry some ugly chick because she has a great personality either.
I don't think there is a more perfect way of saying it.
Well true, but then whats the ugly girl supposed to marry?
Ugly is a relative term. I'd never say anyone is ugly. I go the more diplomatic route and say, "they're not my type."
yo but that is so not true cuz you KNOW there are just some people.............(i'm just being mean tonight and i know it.)
And for those ppl, I am sure their mother still thinks they are a looker
yeah what's up with that. witness parents don't lie to their kids about santa, why lie about looks? hahahahahahaha.
naw i'm just kidding every child is beautiful in some way.
Are you kidding? Have you seen how ugly Beetleguice is on Howard Stern?
haha ok that guy is UGLY
post a picture of him on the site
to answer your first inquiry, as to, what he looks like - I've always thought he's favored the purble tellietubbie....hmm...wonder why he's having girl troubles....haha...j/k there milty...you'll find your knight in shinning armor...patience is a virtue...and, btw, i find it admirable for you to be able to lay your most vulnerable of emotions out on the table here..not everybody can be that open.
that rating system sounds familiar. it was in a ym magazine a long time ago. the guy rated them from 1-10 and if she was less than a 6 he wouldn't even talk to her.