Key to a Sucessful Marriage:She Can Cook
by Lately, I've heard a few different people say that a girl would make a great wife and she is such an amazing catch, because she can cook and is hard-working. Now, I'm not arguing that those aren't good qualities, but I really think statements like these are ridiculous. A good marriage isn't dependent on whether a wife has these qualities, a good marriage depends on the personalities of two people and how well those personalities blend, far more then it depends on good cooking and cleaning abilities. Those qualities aren't bad, but it seems to me that the should have said, that girl is such a good cook and is so hard-working, she'd make a great maid. Seriously, in the time we live in, people should realize that a good wife, and a good marriage depend on much, much more then those trivial qualities.
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i agree in the aspect that you shouldn't base it solely on those qualities-you don't fall in love w/ someone b/c they can clean the toilet. but after you have love, "trivial" qualities are imp too. Ps 31 talks about a capable wife. it makes life run much better if you can manage a household properly-unless you want to end up living like you are in the frat house.
oh yeah, it's completely true that the qualities should be there to a certain degree...but these people were basing it solely on those qualities...thats what annoyed me
"you don't fall in love w/ someone b/c they can clean the toilet."
but you can fall in love with someone who loves to clean the toilet and never wants you to do it. haha
and you have to admit, girls look for, in part, a guy who can give them financial security to a degree. it isn't much different the other way around.
yeah, it is true. And, when it's a young person doing it, it's okay...i think another thing that annoyed me about these people saying it, was that they were older. It's like they are trying to convince young people to look only for practical things, but forget about the relating aspect. But, now that i think about it...young people have a tendency to overlook practical issues, so maybe they were just trying to point out that they do play some role
hmm, yeah, true. a lot of young ones do overlook the practical aspect as well and just go around w/ rose colored glasses. def needs to be a balance
since mike's unemployed should he take the womanly duties? LOL (that will ever happen....) ;)
i just got a new apron today, i am so down to be the housewife forever!
haha...before you know it you'll be knitting doilies and getting facials....
I think in your last sentence you hit the nail on the head, in our time. Back in the day when the woman stayed home and took care of the house and the kids cooking was an important skill. But that doesn't apply to anything anymore.
It's working together. I enjoy cooking and if I was home first I'd prepare the meal. Why make it rough for my wife who just had an hour commute, and now she has to cook dinner?
hmmm... i think having a wife that is hard working is only half of what it takes. the husband would have to have those qualities too. think about an artist that has this amazing talent, but if he's lazy, he'll never be a success. Being domestic isn't the key to a happy marriage, but it sure makes things a lot easier.
Hmm i think the wife should cook and clean and serve her husband hand and foot.. i mean after all that's what you promised when you got married right??? and the wife shouldn't work, she should stay home and clean and cook so that when the husband gets home everything is perfect. Oh also she should be pregant, a lot.
Haha... of course i'm kidding in every way possible.
I wish I could be Mr. Mom.
i always think "hey, can you make cookies?" but then, my friend mike got married...and he was married for about a year...and he said to me "dan...you can't have cookies for breakfast". he was a smart man.
I have cookies for breakfast.
and that's why you're different.
what about cooooooooookie crisp?
apple crisp is okay for breakfast though
I totally think that cookies are a completely appropriate breakfast food! And Cold Cereal is a good dinner. Have a big lunch in between and you're set.
boys once convinced me how this was the most necessary quality to find in a girl is a good cooking habits. this is why i say every guy in the world is after forrest.
I know my guy friends always tell me that a way to a mans heart is through his stomach...LOL
yup.. since i love to cook. if a woman loves to cook. i mean LOVE to cook... neked. and is makes delicious meals.
she's got me . end of sotry
no cooking bacon nekid tsssss ouch
i think girls that can cook are VERY hot
i'm not saying you are right or wrong, but none of my relationships have worked out so far and none of those women could cook. Just a coincidence. I think it would work with a woman who could cook...
'Scuse me Lucy, you have some splaining to dooooo.
"There's no such thing-Like a female with good looks who cooks and cleans" haha
"if you wanna be happy for the rest of your life, never make a pretty woman your wife. take my personal point of view, get an ugly girl to marry you." funniest song ever!
LOL. OMG, my mom gets so pissed off when I or my dad start to sing that song.
yeah, i agree....#1, domestic skills are things that both the husband and wife should posess...#2, what if she can't cook, but, she has like an amazing personality and is totally compatible w/the perspective mate?..should the guy reject her soley based on her lack of cooking expertise?..this kinda thinking is straight from the 50's, it's freakin 2004 for goodness sake
This is good. I cannot cook. So we can still get married, right Bry? I mean..like if you give me directions and all the stuff I can put it together and make food. I can't just hop into the kitchen and whip something up though.
I agree. I could always cook a little BEFORE I got married, but never had the time to really practice the art until afterwards, when I had the time, and my own kitchen. And I must say, not to toot my own horn or anything, but I am an AWESOME cook! Hehehe. But seriously, I think much more is required of someone in order to have a successful marriage...both parties, actually. I do manage the household side of my marriage, which makes it easier on my husband when he comes home, though. My mother in law always says that if you want them to be happy, give them a happy home life.(Or something to that degree) Basically, if works sucks for my husband, make coming home every day a pleasant thing, and there is less to stress about. But it takes work for both parties. I don't mind doing the stereotypical "wife jobs" to make my marriage easier, but I do know that it takes more than that. Realizing that is key.
i don't feel bad for saying this... i would be wary to pursue a relationship with a woman who couldn't cook, at least to some extent. i'd be even more afraid if she was messy or couldn't clean. i'd be afraid that she is lazy.
its true a girl should know these things before she gets married BUT if she has the best personality, loves jah with her heart, and you're totally attracted to her and she can't cook, you shouldn't bypass her, you can always learn to cook but you can never just "learn" a great personality....
Now if she doesn't have the greatest personality, can't cook, doesn't clean, she's either a slob or a diva and you want to stay away from both of those types!
wow your shallow, your a LOOOOOOOOOOOOSER! i hate you.
There is a dating show on the food network (I am not a viewer, my g-parents like to watch emeril) where two ladies will plan and cook a meal for some dude and the guy will pick who he wants to date based on which dinner he likes best.
Tho sometimes, I think the cooking skills come once you have no choice but to cook for yourself. Who knows, you might be a cooking genius waiting to be revealed. As long as you give it the 'ole college try.
existentialism is annoying, because its 14 letters...one more letter, and it'd be enough
woot woot! 7:16 AM point for me!
early bird gets the early existentialism (wow, i'm really giving them out today)
crap this is crazy good!! i'm getting points like ty gets free beer...
haha, slide some money under the table and i'll keep this going
hey, no problem. i guess in some situations, hot chocolate = money