Statute
by Do you think there's a statute of limitations on fighting with your parents? I fought a lot with them when I was 15, 16, maybe 17. But now I have my own life and rarely do I talk to them, let alone fight with them. I work, hang with my boyfriend, go to meetings and out in service, make my own food, pay my own bills, and generally take care of myself. It seems like I've grown out of the bickering that parents and children often do, but they haven't. Is that anyone else's experience?
I think if I were a parent, and my child finally learned to communicate with me in a conflict-resolving way, I'd be ecstatic. Yet, my parents remain the same way they were when I was 15 - they try to talk to me in a 'do it because I say so' manner. Yet, I prevail. I say "Okay. If that's what you want" and walk away. Is that the wrong way to handle a given problem? If I try to discuss any given situation with them to fully understand their viewpoint, they'll say 'just do it', or something similar. Am I not saying something they want to hear? I'm close to the point of incredibly frustrated. I guess I'm looking for someone who's got a little insight into the maladjusted young adult psyche. Any takers?
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smack them with a bag of ice cubes, oops thats the ty advice coming out in me. Umm since around 17 i havent been home enough to get into many fights, but if i spend enough time around the house me and my dad usually have a argument over something. But they dont say do it this way or else, unless maybe i just ignore them when they try to do that :)
I'm 17 and I fight with my parents a semi-good amount. I tried to avoid it by keeping my mom updated on my life and being open with her..but it really hasn't helped much. My 21 year old sister still fights with my parents, but I think it has a lot to do with parents not learning what to do and what not to do. If they learn that a certain thing they say, or a certain way something is said makes their kid mad..they don't stop doing it when they should approach the matter from a different angle perhaps.
ok to build on this, i believe certain people just should be parents, or at least take a class on how to make rational decisions and stick with them. I know of a handful of parents that really need some help upstairs in the head. Making decisions and reversing them 5 times, Double standards and other weird retarded crap that makes everyone go HUH? We need a licesnce to drive but not to have kids, think someone needs to change that :P
I hate when decisions are reversed. Can I go out tonight? No..well..maybe yes. Well...can I? No! But you just said yes!! Well, now I'm saying no. It would be better to stick with a decision be it yes or no..otherwise it's just annoying.
that's just the way it is.
some things will never change
that reminds me of that song,, who sings it.."thats just the way it issss,,,, Somethings will never change"
haha, that was the idea. the original song was by bruce hornsby, there was a rap version later, i forget by who though
tupac shakur
duh matt.... "what planet are YOU from!!!!?"
from the planet where people stick to good morals and don't listen to gangsta rap! PAGAN!
tupac is not gangsta rap. haven't you ever heard "dear momma". he loves him mommy.
yea matt... my momma didnt raise no foo...
...and the range
I think my parents beat me enough when i was younger. so they are tired... and dont have anything left in them. so i haven't argued or got into any trouble for the past 3 years +... however before that... man....ohhhhhhweeee
umm, I dont really argue with my parents. There are ocasional blow outs, but for the most part I have just learned to not say ANYTHING.So much has been avoided byu just walkin away. But I DO HAVE TO SAY, half the time the WAY parents can say things totally has different affects. & sometimes maybe they should think before sayin it a certain way.
I was pretty much going to bring out that point... it's the WAY things are said. Keep in mind that parents still look at their children as children. Can't be helped. My dad still calls me his little boy, even though I'm 37. They still want what's best and it doesn't always come out the right way. Generally, it may be out of frustration that it comes out wrong...
Exactly
'kids' also do that too. It's not always the things they say that get them in trouble, but the way it's said.
true
Yeah, you're right... WE expect too much from our parents and when they don't live up to expectaions, it's a frustrating let-down
hi...................... Barney In The HOuse.....
i think i was 30 when my mom started treating me like an adult.