These Days
by last thursday as i walked toward the hall doing streetwork, i passed by the street where a brother and his family lived, and saw and heard blaring ambulances and people outside moving about frantically. I left my route and went down to the house, the older sister came to me crying, fell
upon my shoulder, told me that her daughter, about 30, had fallen to the floor and passed out The report came about 3 days later. Her daughter had died at 9.30 that morning, right about the time that I came by there that morning.
This morning, i was woke up by he sound of my clock radio alarm at about 6.30, but I really didn't get up until my mom came in about five minutes later telling me that a elder in our congregation died last night.
Well, I'm not used to dealing with death, so I really don't know how these brothers and sister feel with this lost. But
I can be there to comfort them. So muc his going on right now...
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really sorry to hear about that, adam. you are all in my prayers.
so sorry, adam. my heart goes out to you and the families.
That is to sad. I'm sorry to hear this news. Death is a horrible thing. I don't think that anyone who has never lost someone close to them truly knows what it feels like and understands. I heard this illustration once, and I always think of it when i get sad. But our dead loved ones aren't dead to Jehovah, they are sleeping. Think about a mother who has a child. She puts them to bed for a nap, and while they are sleeping, she doesn't worry about them. They are safe, nothing can harm them. This is how Jehovah feels, our dead loved ones are sleeping, and safe, Satan can't harm them now, they endured. Now when its time for the child to wake up, the mother goes into his/her room and gently touches the child's arm and tells them it's time to wake up. When the new system comes, Jehovah is going to tell our dead loved ones "its time to get up". that always makes me feel good.
hmm each person handles death differently i guess... this morning my grandfather died, dont know really how your supposed to act different cause of this. I wasnt really close but i still saw him every month or so.
Im not one to cry or even really look upset. Then again when my grandmother died that i saw a few times a week I was really sad but i still didnt show any emotion which confused everyone and thought i didnt care. But as i said everyone handles it differntly
Just a quick question do you go in and look at the person or stand outside? With my grandmother i stayed outside cause id rather remember the happy times and how she was then come inside and see her in the casket.
On a sidenote im sure death of a parent or a son though effects you alot more then that of a grandparent, although some are really close with htem living in their house so it prolly would be the same. That i think would really effect me hard though.
my condolences and sympathy to both of you. I can relate to you magnum, b/c when my grandfather died (i was close) i couldn't show emotion-it was just like shock. and everyone thought i was heartless. but yet i cried for years after. it just wasn't my time then. you are right that everyone handles it in their own way.
You can do what you want at the funeral. funerals are for the living to comfort each other. if you are more comfortable outside the room, stay there. when my grandmother died i walked in a saw her and started laughing. not that i thought it was funny, but it was a nervous reaction. i had to stay outside for a while.
yea, my grandma was just in a bad accident a few weeks back and was in serious condition, and still is. When they said she may die, i was sad of course, cause she lives with my family. I dont know how i would react if she really died... i agree with magnum, i dont think i could go into the funeral place... i would rather just remember her as she was....
that's so sad...the first person i remember dying was my grandma. i didn't understand why she wasn't talking to me when i went the the funeral home. it's a horrible memory. they had to take me out of there crying and screaming. =(
that sucks, sorry to hear that :/
I get the same reaction. When i'm nervous, i laugh, and people think i'm doing it to be mean, but i'm not. I hate crying infront of everyone, so all my emotions get all messed up and i laugh. I agree that its harder when they have open casket. I always hate that. I usually stay away from the casket. This one funeral i was at was real hard, it was open casket, and he was the best elder in the world, and his family are dear friends of mine, well anyways, they stood infront of the casket while there was a line to talk to them. Just to see them grieving and then to see brother vallas hurt me so bad. That was the only time I ever broke down and cried at a funeral. i still cry when i think about it. but anyways, everyone acts differently. My brother passes out at funerals that he's close to the person that died.
sorry bout that...................................
when i went to my grandfathers funeral, i didn't want to talk about it. people come up i haven't seen in years and i would just smile and ask about everything going on their life. i didn't wanna talk to anyone about it. then afterwards i felt so ashamed that i didn't cry because maybe people thought i didn't care. (he was in my top 3 of favorite people list. and i love him so much.) but i cried so many other times besides that. nobody can tell you how to act at those things because you can grieve in any way you want.
Same with me, but i wasn't crying because everyone else in my family was when my grandfather died. And i didn't until some time later. There was a song that we heard on the radio right after and when i heard that two weeks after i just started crying.....
hey i'm sorry to hear that.
Me and death... ugh... I can tell you...
My mother died when I was 5 years old. It stays with you all your life... the feeling of loss, the hurt, the pain, even though we have the resurrection hope it's still the most depressing thing. It threw my dad out of whack... shortly after mom died, dad was DF'ed for 30 years. I feel for the friends out by you, Adam...
After my mother died (oh, she was a faithful sister of ours, so I know she'll be resurrected... I have to work hard to get to the new system), we went to live with my dad's mother. I was REALLY close to her... when Grandma died back in '95, that was ANOTHER depressing time. I can sympathize with Mike and how he feels about what happened with his grandmother's accident.
The only thing I can suggest for you Adam, is understand that this is a very difficult time for those families. Be there for them... they may just need to cry and babble... be positive and if you have to say anything, talk about the good qualities the deceased exhibited in life. DON'T say anything like "Well, at least there is the resurrection" and junk... the friends know that...
We had some articles some years ago about this... best to look them up, too...
I like how you brought up the resurrection. Some people just don't understand that the resurrection give us hope, but it doesn't take away the pain. It's a pain that doesn't leave and it won't until the new system. Boy, the new system seems better and better everyday. I can't wait.
Yeah, it's something I've lived with for over 32 years... death also affects you psychologically. With me, I'm so scared to get close to people, especially in a relationship. I'm always afraid, deep down, that they're going to die or leave me if I get too close.
I always rememember that when Jesus heard about the death of Lazarus, he cried. THAT really touches me. Here, the man who had the power to resurrect (which he did) CRIED when he heard of his friend's death. It shows we can still mourn... nothing wrong with it...
Hey Adam YOU Forgot about Mark.. He Died Too.. 1 wedding and 3 funerals i could write a book.
omg i did frget about him! 3 deaths... tell me what happened behind that
Different ppl say different things wha i know for sure he was walking to his g/f house and he was shot 3 times.
i had to go to a funeral last night. gives you a sense of urgency about our commission to preach-the people who don't have a hope for the future just didn't know what to do with themselves. they took all of the brochures and tracts that were laid out.