What do you do when someone tries their mack on you?
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i am confused by this poll.. the important thing is, just how cute is this guy? this factor could change my answer....
i think it depends on the percentage of cute guys that hit on you....
well, most are cute... but then turn out to be physcos or jerks... so i need to know if this guy laying on the mack is cute... cuz if hes not, then he has no chance... haha that sounds so shallow... but very true...
Hmm..the guy is fairly good looking, and being really nice so you feel bad turning him down!
and when it says "give him ur number" did he ask for it? or did i just grab his cell and put my number in? these are all things i must know...
mmmm..He asked for it politely!
thank u... now i can make a choice....
see, everyone says it SOUNDS shallow when you say stuff like that..but really..everyone wants a hot guy/girl. and thats usually the first basis for attraction. so WHY is it shallow?! the only thing shallow about that is if thats the SINGLE reason you're attracted...THAT is shallow. :)
I don't know about that. Hotness is severely over-rated. Once you get past a moderate level of attractiveness any more is just overkill. As for it being the first basis for attraction, I don't know about that either. I know that I wouldn't ask a girl out until we were already friends and I knew something about her personality since that is immensely more important to me than what she looks like. Then again, maybe I'm just weird.
nope. you're right, dude. not everyone wants hotness. i don't. i like "good looking"-ness. it's MUCH better. hot is like - britney spears. good looking is like - natalie portman.
i can agree with this...though i don't know that it's for the same reasons. I don't think I would want a really hot guy, because I think I'd be intimidated, unless he was really meek. I get intimidated easy, and I think I'd have a hard time opening up to somebody I thought was really good looking.
Okay whats the difference.. how do you rate hot and goodlooking?
I don't know about skaorsk8, but to me there's a huge difference. I would classify a large percentage of girls as "good-looking" but only a rare few as "hot".
goodlooking makes you look twice,"oh, she's cute". hott is jaw drops, "boogidy boogidy boogidy!"
i dont think you understood me. i think attractivness is the INITIAL basis for attraction...i didnt say it was the most important..i'm saying if you're at a party with 200 other people..you will NOTICE a good looking girl/guy b/c of their looks..it's not like from a glance across the room you can say.."that person is awesome cuz he/she gives awesome talks"..see waht i'm saying? theres MORE to it after the INITIAL..i'm not saying you'd ask them out right then and there..it just might prompt you to go and talk to them.
also though..if you dont think a person is amazing looking off the bat..but got to know them first as a person..that could work too..but i'm talking about the scenario i just mentioned.
See, I don't understand that. I would never go up to someone and start talking to them becase I thought that they were good-looking. I try to talk to everyone regardless of what they look like. If anything, if they were too good-looking it would just scare me off and I'd be even less likely to get to know them.
You are very rare.
Really, I think I'm sufficiently cooked. :) Seriously though, I think it's just that I'm a little older now. I'm not sure if I would have said this stuff 5 years ago. In fact, I'm pretty sure I wouldn't have.
seriously...it's amazing how much we grow and change every year...i look back at myself 1 year or even 6 months ago...i'm such a different person in so many ways...but still the same, at the core...i still laugh at the same stuff, but i take a more serious view of things (i'd like to think)...growing up is good
that's just what ugly people say to make themselves feel better... jk jk!
no but seriously, even the Watchtower has said that good looks can be the initial reason for attraction. so there's nothing wrong with it.
i know EXACTLY what you mean and i think you're right. Just that it's not that way with everybody, of course. a smal percentage of people arent actually attracted first by looks at all. They only feel "attracted" after talking to the person and getting to know them. I've never felt any way about a girl until aftr talking to them and gettin a taste of their personality. but if you're not like me, and normal, chances arethe thing that makes you wanna walk across that room and talk to somebody is how they look.
exactly, it obviously can't be allll about looks, but you need something to start with. i don't see how you could become attracted to somebody you didn't find good looking
Maybe because they look better to you after you get to know them? Seriously, I've met girls who, when I first looked at them, I did not think were at all pretty, but after talking to them for a while they started looking a lot better. I've also had the opposite happen.
I thought I was agreeing with you there? Anyway, I don't think my standards are low. It's just that appearance isn't as high on my list as it seems to be for some people.
I am like you...abnormal...I am always drawn to personality first. Of course, that's what happens when you steal buddies from your friends AIM lists. Talk first, meet later. But seriously, I have always fallen for personality first. The physical attraction just falls into place. But I've never been one to drool over guys and say they are hotties.
hmmm that seems to work only sometimes
THANK YOU! that makes sense!
Wow. I guess girls really are more shallow than guys.
no... guys are just as shallow... for example tell me when the last time u sat around with ur guy friends and talked about how a girl had a great personality and NOT how good-looking she is? or how about the last time u saw a fairly unattractive maybe even an over-weight girl somewhere and was like "wow i have GOT to go meet her" and then went out of your way to get her number? every body is shallow... its due to our inperfection.... we were talking about this in my psychology class last week, people don't want to be with any one who they find less attractive then themselves... its just the way it is.... every body is shallow in one way or another....
Seeing as I don't have any guy friends that I talk about girls with I can't really answer the first question. You're right that I've never tried to get an unattractive girl's number. Of course, I've never tried to get any girl's number, so that really doesn't mean much. As for Psychology, well... I don't believe half of what they say and the other half is taken to an extreme too much.
BTW, I didn't say that looks are entirely unimportant. Just that I think it would be incredibly shallow to walk up to a girl and start talking to her *because* she was pretty.
Then what is going to make you walk up to a girl? Or..do you just walk up to any girl around? You don't think that if your goal was to talk to one girl at a party, you wouldn't pick a pretty one over an ugly one?
So, I usually won't walk up to anyone (male or female) that I don't know and try to start a conversation with them. I much prefer to walk up to a group of people who are already talking about something and try to join the conversation if it's at all interesting. After that, I might try to talk to one of them when they're alone, but I try to make sure that I don't do that because they're cute, but rather because they were interesting to talk to. In fact, at the last party I went to, (when I was back in Boston last weekend), the girl I talked to the most, and the one I would most like to talk to again was probably the least pretty one there.
Of course, I have to base all of this on my extremely limited experience with these things. I've only recently begun to be able to make any sort of friends here in California, so it's been about 8 years since I had a group of friends that I regularly hung out with. (Does anyone still wonder why I hate California?) At that point I was a bit young to be thinking about meeting girls.
