The heart is more treacherous than anything else. I can attest to that. I'd have to say you need to use more reason that heart. I think escpecially in relationships you need to use more reasoning...
I agree with you. Except I'd push reason up a lot higher. Preferably closer to 70 or 80%.
because...it didn't work out...i was using so much reason to try to figure things out, and i forgot to put my heart into it also...oh, he's a good guy, oh he is spiritual, oh my parents like him, oh he has a nice personality....oops, i forgot to remember that i have to have feelings for him too
I'd really love for someone to explain what that phrase "have feelings for" means. No, I'm not joking.
If you're just using reasoning it can't work, you won't be happy! I think what Tinser said really covers it, you go "wow he's all these great things" turn around and realize you don't love him. You may care for him, but that's not enough you need to love. And also, if you let reason control you to much while you are in love you may mess up big time. Like, you love someone but reason tells you that you just don't make sense, you're not enough alike (the kind of stuff a friend would tell you) and you go on that..but you love them. Even if it doesn't always make sense love can make it work.
eXactly...love is the motivating force
uhuh. It's your head that produces doubts and if you are gonna be all rational then you won't survive.
Are we working under the same definitions of reason and heart? Cause I think both the head and the heart produce doubts. The difference is that when your head produces doubts you can reason through them deciding if they're really important and if you really have to deal with them, whereas when your heart produces doubts they're absolutely paralyzing preventing you from having any idea what to do until you get your head involved to sort out the mess.
I don't understand. What do you think it mean to love someone if not to recognize all the great things about them? To me, love is a very reasoned thing, and something which the heart has little to do with.