I was in my late teens. I saw her at a congregation picnic. When I saw and spoke to her, I felt someting that I never felt before. I had no game, just corney conversation. I left the picnic without having the guts to ask for her #. The next two days, It was killing me."All I had to do was ask". At the time, I was in a relationship with someone else, but I couldn't get her smile out of my head. It was killing me. I knew her father was a elder. My father was an elder also. I snooped in the congregation files, found her congregation, and found her number. I mustered up the courage to call her, and I just kept it real with her. I told her how I felt and what I did to get her number. She laughed. She admitted she was feeling the same thing. We talked, and it was as if our hearts were connected. What I would feel when seeing her was beautiful. That's my first expirence with love.
you little sneaky person you! =)
See I think that's my point. Love can drive you to do things you wouldn't ordinarily do.
this is true! =)
I don't know. I doubt anything could get me to do what you did.
I feel the fire, I am melting in my chair...
Is that a quote from somewhere?
no, i mean your comments shot fire at me. You sounded like "What you did was awfull, How could you? I would never do such a thing"!
Interesting. That's not what I meant. I think it's great that you had the guts to do that, and to be able to ignore the possible consequences. I don't and can't.
Now that i'm older, I couldn't or wouldn't use spirtual or organizational stuff for my own pesonal benefit. I'm sure it's a ton of stuff that we all did in the past that we wouldn't do now. I agree with you.
Yeah. Actually what I'd be most concerned about is what other people would think about me calling a girl that I barely knew. I do not want to get the reputation that my brother had.
well how do you get to know a sister that you barely know? you need to call her right?
That's a very good point and one that I've been trying to understand for a while now.
what don't you understand hun? if you're attracted to one, you need to call and get to know them. now you only get a rep if you move from one person to the other without allowing sufficient time....
What I don't understand is what is considered appropriate and what is not.
Don't touch her no-no places and everything should be all right.
you're so cute lynz!
different people have different no no spots though.....like personally...i'm 100% yes yes....i don't think i have any no no's...
Appropriate: call her if your interested and take it from there. It just all flows naturally...
In-appropriate: coming on too strong, jsut be yourself
Haha. Sorry, but if you knew me you'd know that *nothing* having to do with conversation just flows naturally with me. Oh well, I should stop talking about this subject. I'm getting depressed enough as it is.
dont sweat it man, i'm in the same boat as u. never was really natural at that kind of stuff. like talking to girls and such. except i just dont care anymore! yipeeeeeeeeeeee!!! seriously though, its so much smarter to just chill, be friends with everybody, eventually everything will fall into place. right? RIGHT!??!?!?????
definitely true
Thanks for the clarification.
aw hun, i didn't take it that way....it was sweet the way you did it and i think he meant that it wouldn't have worked for him (even though maybe it could)
i guess at this point you hadn't thought about using the phone book, information, or whitepages.com
Thats beautiful man, good for you!
That's one of the sweetest things I ever heard.
In all honesty that really isn't love that is infatuation you can't love someone you don't even know there just isn't enough there to have that kind of feeling.
There is a difference Mike, and it is possible. Rare, but possible. People just click sometimes, and when they do it's beautiful. You'd have to experiance it to understand.
Yes it may be a special thing but it's not love.
true what jesse says. i knew i wanted to marry andrew right away. i was afraid to believe it was love b/c logically it was too fast. but i knew it w/o a doubt i loved him. it clicked. very uncomplicated and smooth flowing. unlike the previous relationship which i thought was love but was really one complicated torturous mess.
Can't I just tell a beautiful story?(smile)
No but I agree with you. However I must say, that "mutual infactuation" felt very special. It encompassed everything. After cultivation, that inital infactuation and fascination grew into a true liking, and deep yearning for the other individual. You can be "infactuated" with a person, but to have them share the exact same feeling, this can equate into something special. Eventually that liking turned into a deep caring. And after time, that caring and concern "grew" into love. Looking back, I can say that even my initial feelings were something unique. I don't know, It's as if love warned me "Be careful, this will be love"
That's part of the reason I wanted it so bad. It was more real that any previous feelings i've expirenced, and I had expirenced a lot of "previous feelings".
Taht's pretty much the way most relationships tend to start out. Love has to be developed and cultivated. Didn't mean to ruin your beatiful story. It's just to many people I know feel that is what love is.
Can I have your autograph Dr. Phil?
So I have to ask you is it expierence which has taught you about love? You mentioned your friends, do they consult your advice?
No unfortunatly they do not. I mean I'm not the biggest authority on the subject or anything just throwing my 2 unwanted cents out there to be disected and ripped to shreds. I have had some experience limited but some. Most is from watching the mistakes my friends have made.
stalker!!!..haha..nah, so, are you like dating her..or did you marry her or something
No we didn't get married. We first started talking at a time when we wern't in a position to get married. It was in the plans, but it didn't work out. In life, I've alway had to learn things the hard way. So now, It's like Nas said, "best friends become strangers". It taught me some very valuable lesson about love. Hold on to your love when you have it. Don't play around with love.
However I'm happy to say that I am now married to a lovely sister. We used to live in the same two family house when we were kids. We have 2 girls, 3 and 4 mos old. It's wonderful. Having little girls with someone you love, has demonstrated to me another aspect about love I had no Idea about.
one is 3 months old and one is 4 months old? i would love to have you explain to me how THAT happened...
The one daughter is 3 yrs old, the other daughter is 4 months old.
yeah, dude, that's physically impossible..haha...who taught your health class?
see i was thinking this but then i figured it out before i made myself sound stupid by asking.
so are you insinuating that danhill sounded stupid for asking? haha.
Hahaha, No 3 yrs old,and 4 mos old
Haha,Now I'm sitting here trying to come up with a hypothesis of how that could happen. "Now if we take twins, and somehow induce the birth of one, and then,,?..,No it wouldn't work"
