Believe in a thing called L-O-V-E
by So, what's the deal with this love thing? Like, what does everyone think about what it is/means? The dictionary says:
*A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness.
*A feeling of intense desire and attraction toward a person with whom one is disposed to make a pair; the emotion of sex and romance.
But what does everyone experiences (or just general thoughts on the subject) tell them? Is love the fireworks when you kiss and butterflies in your stomach everytime you see them or is it something different? Can you even define it, or is it different for each and every person?
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love stinks, i hate it right now very much
why?? what happened? =(
learning that the "one" wasn't really the one very badly
At least you didn't learn that after you've been married 7 years.
that is very true
ouch, i'm so sorry hun!! and they're right, it's better to find out now than after being married.
Is love when everytime your phone rings you jump because of the remote possibility that it might be that person, even when you know the odds are greater that helen keller would be calling you? Is love when anytime you are inspired to do anything you think of just that one person, when you can't picture yourself with anybody else? is love when you would gladly set fire to a club in NYC, tattoo their name accross your forehead, and sever your pinkie just to show how much you care?? is love when you videotape that person 24/7 and quit your job just so you can follow their every move?
correct me if i'm wrong...
Lets see the first part is defenitly infatuation
the last part STALKER!!!!:-P
Watch out ladies!!
Yeah I think you hit that nail on the head there.
I believe in a thing called L U S T
I L U S T YOU baby!
I was in my late teens. I saw her at a congregation picnic. When I saw and spoke to her, I felt someting that I never felt before. I had no game, just corney conversation. I left the picnic without having the guts to ask for her #. The next two days, It was killing me."All I had to do was ask". At the time, I was in a relationship with someone else, but I couldn't get her smile out of my head. It was killing me. I knew her father was a elder. My father was an elder also. I snooped in the congregation files, found her congregation, and found her number. I mustered up the courage to call her, and I just kept it real with her. I told her how I felt and what I did to get her number. She laughed. She admitted she was feeling the same thing. We talked, and it was as if our hearts were connected. What I would feel when seeing her was beautiful. That's my first expirence with love.
you little sneaky person you! =)
See I think that's my point. Love can drive you to do things you wouldn't ordinarily do.
this is true! =)
I don't know. I doubt anything could get me to do what you did.
I feel the fire, I am melting in my chair...
Is that a quote from somewhere?
no, i mean your comments shot fire at me. You sounded like "What you did was awfull, How could you? I would never do such a thing"!
Interesting. That's not what I meant. I think it's great that you had the guts to do that, and to be able to ignore the possible consequences. I don't and can't.
Now that i'm older, I couldn't or wouldn't use spirtual or organizational stuff for my own pesonal benefit. I'm sure it's a ton of stuff that we all did in the past that we wouldn't do now. I agree with you.
Yeah. Actually what I'd be most concerned about is what other people would think about me calling a girl that I barely knew. I do not want to get the reputation that my brother had.
well how do you get to know a sister that you barely know? you need to call her right?
That's a very good point and one that I've been trying to understand for a while now.
what don't you understand hun? if you're attracted to one, you need to call and get to know them. now you only get a rep if you move from one person to the other without allowing sufficient time....
What I don't understand is what is considered appropriate and what is not.
Don't touch her no-no places and everything should be all right.
you're so cute lynz!
different people have different no no spots though.....like personally...i'm 100% yes yes....i don't think i have any no no's...
Appropriate: call her if your interested and take it from there. It just all flows naturally...
In-appropriate: coming on too strong, jsut be yourself
Haha. Sorry, but if you knew me you'd know that *nothing* having to do with conversation just flows naturally with me. Oh well, I should stop talking about this subject. I'm getting depressed enough as it is.
dont sweat it man, i'm in the same boat as u. never was really natural at that kind of stuff. like talking to girls and such. except i just dont care anymore! yipeeeeeeeeeeee!!! seriously though, its so much smarter to just chill, be friends with everybody, eventually everything will fall into place. right? RIGHT!??!?!?????
definitely true
Thanks for the clarification.
aw hun, i didn't take it that way....it was sweet the way you did it and i think he meant that it wouldn't have worked for him (even though maybe it could)
i guess at this point you hadn't thought about using the phone book, information, or whitepages.com
Thats beautiful man, good for you!
That's one of the sweetest things I ever heard.
In all honesty that really isn't love that is infatuation you can't love someone you don't even know there just isn't enough there to have that kind of feeling.
There is a difference Mike, and it is possible. Rare, but possible. People just click sometimes, and when they do it's beautiful. You'd have to experiance it to understand.
Yes it may be a special thing but it's not love.
true what jesse says. i knew i wanted to marry andrew right away. i was afraid to believe it was love b/c logically it was too fast. but i knew it w/o a doubt i loved him. it clicked. very uncomplicated and smooth flowing. unlike the previous relationship which i thought was love but was really one complicated torturous mess.
Can't I just tell a beautiful story?(smile)
No but I agree with you. However I must say, that "mutual infactuation" felt very special. It encompassed everything. After cultivation, that inital infactuation and fascination grew into a true liking, and deep yearning for the other individual. You can be "infactuated" with a person, but to have them share the exact same feeling, this can equate into something special. Eventually that liking turned into a deep caring. And after time, that caring and concern "grew" into love. Looking back, I can say that even my initial feelings were something unique. I don't know, It's as if love warned me "Be careful, this will be love"
That's part of the reason I wanted it so bad. It was more real that any previous feelings i've expirenced, and I had expirenced a lot of "previous feelings".
Taht's pretty much the way most relationships tend to start out. Love has to be developed and cultivated. Didn't mean to ruin your beatiful story. It's just to many people I know feel that is what love is.
Can I have your autograph Dr. Phil?
So I have to ask you is it expierence which has taught you about love? You mentioned your friends, do they consult your advice?
No unfortunatly they do not. I mean I'm not the biggest authority on the subject or anything just throwing my 2 unwanted cents out there to be disected and ripped to shreds. I have had some experience limited but some. Most is from watching the mistakes my friends have made.
stalker!!!..haha..nah, so, are you like dating her..or did you marry her or something
No we didn't get married. We first started talking at a time when we wern't in a position to get married. It was in the plans, but it didn't work out. In life, I've alway had to learn things the hard way. So now, It's like Nas said, "best friends become strangers". It taught me some very valuable lesson about love. Hold on to your love when you have it. Don't play around with love.
However I'm happy to say that I am now married to a lovely sister. We used to live in the same two family house when we were kids. We have 2 girls, 3 and 4 mos old. It's wonderful. Having little girls with someone you love, has demonstrated to me another aspect about love I had no Idea about.
one is 3 months old and one is 4 months old? i would love to have you explain to me how THAT happened...
The one daughter is 3 yrs old, the other daughter is 4 months old.
yeah, dude, that's physically impossible..haha...who taught your health class?
see i was thinking this but then i figured it out before i made myself sound stupid by asking.
so are you insinuating that danhill sounded stupid for asking? haha.
Hahaha, No 3 yrs old,and 4 mos old
Haha,Now I'm sitting here trying to come up with a hypothesis of how that could happen. "Now if we take twins, and somehow induce the birth of one, and then,,?..,No it wouldn't work"
i believe i lub myself im marrying my left toe tommrrow
i have NO idea, who was on my computer.... lol
a drunken mikey..i mean monkey?
Come on mike just fess up It was you. You are planning on marrying your toe. We all know you do love yourself that much.
and this is an example of why you don't leave your computer unattended while having company over
Yeah, I typically lock my login out. I have a guest login for house guests.
Mike always leaves his ezabel logged in.
haha, what inspired this thread?..are you trying to figure out whether you're in love or not, by looking @ our definitions of it, and comparing how you feel to them?
w/that being asked, i think..love...is
Letting her have the remote, when you know can't stand the Lifetime Channel
Going out @ 4am to buy her a quart of rocky road ice cream
Not punching her in the eye when she acts up(haha, j/k)
When the mere thought of being apart alone is enough to make you start missing eachother
Having absolutely no desire to look elsewhere for attention
And a buncha other mushy stuff
angry pirate...ARRRRRRRRGH
No..that's silly. My friend and I were just discussing and came to the conclusion that all those romantic fairy-tale stories that we both love so much are just not realistic. We think they give people a false idea of what love is and mess them up.
The thing with a lot of "love stories" is they aren't really love they are showing. It's infatuation. Very rarely are any of them based on reality.
You just totally made sense of something I haven't been able to. That was perfect! Thank you so much.
Wow I totally missed this comment.lol
No problem, my pleasure it took me a while to figure it out myself.
Also, you can totally love someone without being infatuated with them because love is this deeper level.
The thing with a lot of relationships is they start out as people being infatuated with one another then it will develop into real love. So I would totally have to agree with you on that one.
well, yeah, but we go to see these movies as an escape from reality...no, none of us will end up riding into any sunset w/our lover on a white horse, or saving her from vampire ninjas, and making out with her after your done...but it sure is entertaining to watch somebody else do it.....What's silly though is when somebody's watching a movie & they're like "why doesn't that ever happen to mee???"...YOU DON'T LIVE IN A MOVIE!!..THAT'S WHY!
I've saved a girl from ravanging werewolfs before. Then I got to make out with her, it was the coolest. But then I woke up alone again and realized my life sucked.
so these wolves were, ravanging, you say?....haha
Yeah, it was a cross between ravaging and something else, but I havne't quite figured it out after all these years. (can you tell I can't spell to save my life?)
But I don't just mean scenarios. I mean like the always having butterflies in your stomach or seeing fireworks when you kiss. For the former, chances are you have some nervous disability and for the latter..go get your eyes checked. Movies it's a little different because you don't hear the person's thoughts but in books and stories where they're like "We kissed and the heavens sang" maybe I just have bad ears but I have yet to hear singing.
I miss the butterflies.
I don't, they make me sick. Like..it's a nice thing but I think that falls more under a 'crush' then love. You can still get butterflies but I totally prefer just super-happiness when seeing your other or just like..a nice warm-on-the-inside feeling. Something like that.
I remember getting voicemails from my wife and getting butterflies while listening to them. Either the way she said something or what she said would triger them. And this was after 4 or 5 years of marriage.
ah, good feelings
That's the way it should be. I think it's awesome if you can feel the same way that you did about your significant other when you first started dating, even after years of marriage. I SO hope I still get those butterflies after me and my hubby have been married 50 years.
going out at 4am to buy her rocky road ice cream? This should only apply if she's pregnant, otherwise...she's got you whipped!
haha..well...not if it's like mutual
actually these are the definition of being WHIPPED!!!
haha, maybe....
come on people.
love is not defined. it's felt. now move on ..and find answers to more important questions like... why when i have ebola.. i can't still live..
1 Corinthians 13:4-13 hehe
oh i should give an experience huh? i love all my friends in a brotherly way, some more than others. i feel loved when i feel assured that they look after me and like me for who i am and seeing them happy. i love my enemies too. like at skool, even if someone's mean to me, i'm still nice to them. i'm still working on sincerely loving Jehovah, i'm sure that's like the best love ever but it just doesn't happen overnight. i don't think i've found that special girl to love tho, i have feelings toward a certain someone, but i don't wanna be worrying about dating and stuff now. it's hard to take care of myself, how can i possibly take care of someone else at the same time? but i think everyone has a different sense of love - not everyone has the same taste.
Love is when you look forward t seeing this person every day, and when the little things that annoyed you before, now you adore. When you're in the middle of something, whether it be work, shopping, etc. and you think of this person you float about 100 feet in the air.....
It's different for most people, but it's always that certain feeling that you never had...
love is sharing your last piece of candy.
or sharing the same surfboard...
or sharing breast implants...wait..
love is when the girl cirlces " YES " on your note.
::singing "Do you love me, do you wanna be my friend....I think this is how love goes - check yes or no."
you are both genuises!!! these two comments made me laugh so hard.
I like the word.... SAVANT. not genius. SAVANT
I like the word genius. Thank you very much malibu.
I think love is something that grows, the more you get to know the person. And romantic love, in my opnion, is the toughest to define. Love for your friends is easier, but it's the "true love" that confuses people. For example, my relationship with my husband. I have known him since I was 14, and I had a crush on him back then....I was sure I loved him. Got over that fast....mainly because I was young, and I didn't KNOW him....I saw the physical, but not the mental and emotional sides of him, which are very important. Seven years later, we had developed quite a good friendship, gotten to know each other a lot better, had the same goals and plans, and along the way, we realized we had fallen in love. I think if it were any less than that, it would have faded after a while.
I think it is certainly different for everyone. I know a girl who met this guy, and she could not stand him at first...he was loud, obnoxious, and not that attractive. But, the groups they hung out with got together a lot, and they got along better, and soon she realized he was funny and had a great sense of humor, caring and considerate, nice, and kinda cute. She realized she had feelings for him. It's that sort of thing that makes me believe that love is not immediate...like all things in a relationship, it takes work. Maybe not hard work, but more of a "continuous effort" sort of thing. You learn as you go with some of it, and after a while, experience helps you along.
But once you are there, it gets easier. I can't imagine loving anyone else the way I love my husband. But like I said, it wasn't immediate....I thought it was when I was 14, but as I got older, I realized the difference between love and infatuation.
Ok, now I'm sort of rambling, but I think some of this has made sense...maybe not. :)
The problem with the word love in the englis launguage is it's meaning is just to broad most other languages have more that one word for the word we have love for. Look at the example we have from the bible. There is Agape, Philia, eros, and storge I believe. It's hard to really comprehend what one mean when they say love in the english language.
I don't think there's one way to define it. Keep in mind there are a few different types of love as well. I love many of my friends very deeply, just as much as I love my family. Can I describe those feelings? Not sure, but I care very much about them.
Love, as in how I loved my wife is another story. I don't think I could describe that all. There wasn't a thing in the world I wouldn't do for her. She was my life, I was her life. And that developed over the course of a 10 year relationship. It was something that (I thought) was unbreakable. I think the bible gives the best definition of love though. True love is all of those things.