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specialk Mar 31, 2004

I don't know specifics, only experience. When my husband and I were dating, we went to the same congregation, and lived 5 minutes away from each other. We were never in a car alone together, althou...

specialk Mar 31, 2004

Basically, I don't think there should be a limit to how much time you spend together, as long as you are smart about it. I know couples here who, when they were dating, rode alone in cars together ...

beachbum beachbumOG 2002

that is one thing i could never understand...people get so upset over 2 people driving together in a car. no where does it say not to drive together-it says don't go park somewhere and make out. if you are really determined to do something bad, you can follow each other to a spot and get in the same car and do whatever. it's just one of my pet peeves. i don't find the logic in it.

specialk specialkOG 2003

Don't get me wrong...I don't get overly worked up over it. I just know of certain times that people have done that around here, and trouble has ensued. For me and my husband, we figured "better safe than sorry." That was just our opinion. I certainly won't judge others for what they do, but just from a cautious standpoint, that's my view on it.

beachbum beachbumOG 2002

haha sorry i hope i didn't sound like i was getting on your case about it specifically. it just sparked my irritation with the subject in general.

specialk specialkOG 2003

No, it's ok. I totally understand. :)

skaorsk8 skaorsk8OG 2002

see, i'm with you. especially if you're seriously dating or engaged. so you're in a car. big deal. moving at 55 mph kind of prevents any craziness.

thatdarngirl thatdarngirlOG 2002

Yeah, I've always had a thing about this too. I understand the need for being cautious not for the sake of making sure we don't do anything, but just to make sure we don't get in trouble. If people are determined to bow-shaka-wow-wow then they'll figure out how to do it!

specialk specialkOG 2003

Very true, but I think that if one or both persons has a "past" (I don't know any other way to put it), it's better to be careful. You never want rumors to start, and so sometimes you have to be overly careful. That's when I think it should really apply.

thatdarngirl thatdarngirlOG 2002

People'll start rumors about anyone..past or not. Even! if they don't have even the littlest bit of factual basis. So sad.

specialk specialkOG 2003

This is true. I just know that, as long as we didn't give people something to talk about, they were less likely to do it. If we were covering our butts, it was easier to not only stop rumors, but stop from being tempted, too.

beachbum beachbumOG 2002

haha so true. people talk no matter what you do. you have know idea how many times i've wanted to jump up and give a talk entitled "Minding Your Own Business."

perrin perrinOG 2004

Yeah I know what you mean Janine. Why can't people just mind their own business. It's ridiculous.

specialk specialkOG 2003

Oh my word.....I couldn't agree more. Every young person and old person in my hall needs to hear that talk. If you ever develop it, give me your outline. Hehehe.

socalgal socalgalOG 2003

just tell them the scripture that says that....I can't even remember where it's at now.....and i just recited it the other day

beachbum beachbumOG 2002

i think it's in 1 Tim-the one about being meddlers in other peoples affairs?

socalgal socalgalOG 2003 beachbum

YES, thats it, thanks!

perrin perrinOG 2004 beachbum

1 Thess 4:11 is a good one too.

beachbum beachbumOG 2002

exactly. and do you know how impossible it is once you are engaged to have someone constantly w/ you to go to reception halls, photographer, florist, etc. I can't see driving all over the place in seperate cars or not going somewhere at all b/c there is no one to go with you.

specialk specialkOG 2003

This is true. It was a pain in the butt for us. It's manageable, but annoying.

tinser tinserOG 2002

but there is a back seat, haha

socalgal socalgalOG 2003

um you'd think...BUT there are a few funky things i've seen in cars next to me....LOL

beachbum beachbumOG 2002

haha yeah, but if you are doing that, you are pretty determined to be bad anyway and seperate cars isn't going to stop you

thatdarngirl thatdarngirlOG 2002

I think like..the whole idea is "being in seperate cars stops the temptation" hah..suuuuure it does!

socalgal socalgalOG 2003

lol SO true!

ophelia opheliaOG 2003

AMEN!!!...I cannot stand this..like, i've never paid any attention to the whole "don't be alone in a car w/a girl" thing to begin with - but the mere fact that it'd possibly be an issue if it was brought to certain peoples attention annoys the crap outa me...&, you KNOW these same people who are giving counsle did the same thing when they were our age...bottom line..teens and people in their early 20's are made to look like sex crazed maniacs via some of these principles sometimes, like, life is circumstantial, two people of the opposite sex, being in a car alone, does NOT automatically = boot knocking...it depends on the people involved

perrin perrinOG 2004

Yeah I know it's rather ridiculous escpecially when you've been friends with someone for like 20 years. I mean if you were going to do something I think it would have happened by now. I mean really. People can be so annoying.

socalgal socalgalOG 2003

that is so true!!! I've stopped listening to what others say in that regards. i have a male best-freind and we go places alone and some have "talked" its annoying

skaorsk8 skaorsk8OG 2002

i agree with a lot of this conversation, but come on, sometimes (you see this happen with people who are old and desperate) they one day look at each other and say "we've been friends for 20 years lets change that" and that's life

socalgal socalgalOG 2003

thats true in some case, then there's the cases, like me, that it would be incestuous cuase this friends like a family member

perrin perrinOG 2004

Yes in some situations I do understand it. There are situations where this could be very dangerous but at the same time that's not always the case. Maybe I'm wrong I don't know that's just my 2 cents on the subject.

beachbum beachbumOG 2002

i think perrin is talking more in a situation like mine and his friendship (and like socogal & her friend) we've been friends just about our whole lives so if there was going to be something there it probably would have come up long before now. it's like people make blanket rules about things w/o considering circumstances. perrin & i drove to mtn creek tog. a couple of wks ago. big stinking deal. it would be retarded to drive 1 1/2 in seperate cars. i was just WAITING for someone to say something about it...

perrin perrinOG 2004

Yeah that is pretty much what I was talking about.

socalgal socalgalOG 2003

I hear ya & know EXACTLY what you mean!

juicymango juicymangoOG 2003

Haha i was gonna say the same thing... It's just a funny issue

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