i think i know what you mean. its like ppl are so afraid of being hurt, they want some guarantee you wont break their hearts before youre even sure if you know them.
ok that too! but outsiders putting pressure on you.
OH....you mean influencing the thinking of the pursuer on the pursuee??
for instance, me telling you that tom is not good for you, he's this, he's that etc. before you even have the opportunity to get to know him?
Yep! Exactly. Not that I'm the type to disregard sound advice...but sometimes people go crazy with it and make things more complicated then they are.
YES i totally understand. people butt in where they shouldn't. i could see if the person has the WORST rep and they're just warning you, but something innocent....they just wanna poke around where they shouldn't.
if that person listens to such and doesn't come to the conclusion themselves, then this person wouldn't be a good match since they can't make decisions on their own.
True that Socal! I'm very quick to "run things by" people...I guess for fear I don't know what I'm doing but that's not always true and I'm finding it's not such a good idea to let people butt in.
if its people you trust then its ok, but its' the ones who don't know you that're jsut beng nosey!