I understand that. I'm just saying that as a person who has those wonderful things, it's hard to imagine someone not wanting them. Like if it was 100 degrees outside and I had a cool glass of lemonade, it would be hard for me to imagine why you wouldn't want a glass too.
I think when people ask you if you're married, at the core, they're asking because they hope you'll have that happiness too. Not to make you feel bad that you're not married.
Asking someone when they're getting married is a very insensitive question, no doubt, but I just wanted everyone to get a different perspective.
being married doesn't equal happiness.....being single doesn't bring more happiness.....being happy with yourself with who you are brings happiness and contentment.....whether married or single
***snaps***
i agree. i think peace, happiness and and an uncompromised feeling of contentment can be found in BOTH avenues. marriage, to me, now, is a snare and a racket. especially since everyone is so into admonishing ones to find a mate right away and guilting dating ones to get married. it's a comedy, really. i can't disagree with that silly desert/lemonaid comment. that sounds very Pennsylvania to me.
i meant that i can't disagree MORE. THAT's what i meant.
I agree with this.
I knew I shouldn't have commented in this forum. Geez.
why because not everybody agrees with your opinion. that's what this is all about, people putting their opinions out there. we're all different and that's what's great about the world. just because somebody has a different view than you doesn't mean it's a personal attack. you don't have to blast somebody just because they don't love everything that you love
No, because I'm being misunderstood. What's your problem?
if that's true, please explain it to us. i want to understand what you're saying.
I think that any married person who asks a single person when they're getting married is being insensitive. No question. I would never do it, and when I hear other people do it, I tell them I think it's really insensitive. I hated the question when I was single, but I hated more to see my friends' feelings hurt by it. I've known people like the girl mentioned below that are deeply emotionally hurt by comments about marriage, and I thought if anyone here was, maybe putting a positive spin on the question might make them feel better.
I understand where you're coming from, I think, you're kinda just explaining that some married people can't help but ask that because they're just happy and they don't MEAN to be insensitive. So maybe they jsut need to be told that it's insensitive.
Even when people are dating i think it's wrong to keep asking them when they're getting engaged, etc - it just puts pressure on them..
Yeah, that's what I mean. I think every congregation needs a local needs part about sensitivity. Especially because we're so close as an organization, we feel like we can take liberties with each other and that's really not the case.
It's a good idea.
word.
cool. i think i understand now.
nothing. i'm sorry i upset you
What is this? Is Matty being fiesty? HAHAHAHAHA!
*yes I am THAT loud, in REAL LIFE