hmm each person handles death differently i guess... this morning my grandfather died, dont know really how your supposed to act different cause of this. I wasnt really close but i still saw him every month or so.
Im not one to cry or even really look upset. Then again when my grandmother died that i saw a few times a week I was really sad but i still didnt show any emotion which confused everyone and thought i didnt care. But as i said everyone handles it differntly
Just a quick question do you go in and look at the person or stand outside? With my grandmother i stayed outside cause id rather remember the happy times and how she was then come inside and see her in the casket.
On a sidenote im sure death of a parent or a son though effects you alot more then that of a grandparent, although some are really close with htem living in their house so it prolly would be the same. That i think would really effect me hard though.
my condolences and sympathy to both of you. I can relate to you magnum, b/c when my grandfather died (i was close) i couldn't show emotion-it was just like shock. and everyone thought i was heartless. but yet i cried for years after. it just wasn't my time then. you are right that everyone handles it in their own way.
You can do what you want at the funeral. funerals are for the living to comfort each other. if you are more comfortable outside the room, stay there. when my grandmother died i walked in a saw her and started laughing. not that i thought it was funny, but it was a nervous reaction. i had to stay outside for a while.
yea, my grandma was just in a bad accident a few weeks back and was in serious condition, and still is. When they said she may die, i was sad of course, cause she lives with my family. I dont know how i would react if she really died... i agree with magnum, i dont think i could go into the funeral place... i would rather just remember her as she was....
that's so sad...the first person i remember dying was my grandma. i didn't understand why she wasn't talking to me when i went the the funeral home. it's a horrible memory. they had to take me out of there crying and screaming. =(
that sucks, sorry to hear that :/
I get the same reaction. When i'm nervous, i laugh, and people think i'm doing it to be mean, but i'm not. I hate crying infront of everyone, so all my emotions get all messed up and i laugh. I agree that its harder when they have open casket. I always hate that. I usually stay away from the casket. This one funeral i was at was real hard, it was open casket, and he was the best elder in the world, and his family are dear friends of mine, well anyways, they stood infront of the casket while there was a line to talk to them. Just to see them grieving and then to see brother vallas hurt me so bad. That was the only time I ever broke down and cried at a funeral. i still cry when i think about it. but anyways, everyone acts differently. My brother passes out at funerals that he's close to the person that died.
sorry bout that...................................
when i went to my grandfathers funeral, i didn't want to talk about it. people come up i haven't seen in years and i would just smile and ask about everything going on their life. i didn't wanna talk to anyone about it. then afterwards i felt so ashamed that i didn't cry because maybe people thought i didn't care. (he was in my top 3 of favorite people list. and i love him so much.) but i cried so many other times besides that. nobody can tell you how to act at those things because you can grieve in any way you want.
Same with me, but i wasn't crying because everyone else in my family was when my grandfather died. And i didn't until some time later. There was a song that we heard on the radio right after and when i heard that two weeks after i just started crying.....
hey i'm sorry to hear that.