you're one of the fortunate ones!
Its funny as a guy you never really get the "when are you getting married" talk... In all honesty, they dont start asking until your like 28 or 30... But for sisters, they get it right when they turn 21... they give you the "your an adult now, why arent you dating anyone, or why dont you want to get married?"
I feel bad because it can get very discouraging for sisters... some may feel that if they are still single at 25 that they have missed the train, because most of the guys older and around their age are now pursuing the 21 year olds...
Maybe some sisters are afraid of that scenario and get married when their younger so they dont feel like they missed the train...
Its like a vicious cycle... It all goes to having fun while your single and dont live your life to get married, but live your life for singleness and if the right person comes along, there will be blessing, and if they dont, there will also be blessings....
this is true. A few of my really good female friends that attend the spanish cong just turned 30 and are being pressured to get married and they're jsut seeking anyone out to date and marry. I try so hard to warn them that this is VERY dangerous in the long run.
Thats so true, but Im sure when they look around the brothers that they are truly interested in are probably interested in someone younger than them, so they probably feel like anyone will do, because they aren't going to get what they want anyways... its just wrong...
What's the deal with age? If a sister is good looking and nice why should it matter if she's older? Are some brothers using a standard I am unaware of?
he's just saying majority of guys my age are going for girls that're 21ish to 25ish...which i def agree with.
So if you were a single sister looking for a mate and are at the age of 26-30, its not very encouraging...
UNLESS you look younger for your age...LOL
Speaking as a 27 year old guy I can give you at least two reasons for that:
First, there's a ton more single sisters in that age range. By the time they reach the 26-30 range most of them are either married off, or in the world. Heck, most of them are married off by the time they reach the 21-25 range. Most of the single sisters that I know are in the 18-20 range, and most of them are already dating someone.
Second, the ones that are left, at least most of the ones I've met, have serious flaws. I'm not saying there aren't marriageable sisters in that range, (I have met a few) but they are hard to find, and usually hard to get to know since they are so busy with their own lives.
Hahaha - I love the way you put "good looking" before "nice". That's great.
lol i thought the same thing
I think that's cause they assume that it's somehow easy for a guy to get married in the truth. If he makes it to thirty they assume he's either too picky, or NPG.
NPG, haven't heard THAT in a while
Well you know the reason for older guys with younger girls don't know?
It's due to a guy taking longer to get established because a man has to step up to being the breadwinner and by the time they're financially stable and whatnot, they're older and all the girls their age have already been married because it took the bloke too long.
I made more money than Donovan when we got married. He got a job offer on our honeymoon, so we weren't married for long, but still...
I always thought guys just take a little longer to mature and actually want to get married.
I know a lot of couples who the wives actually had more money, my cousin (who got married at 25) made more money than her husband (at the time)... she paid for the whole wedding herself, than he got a job promotion a couple years later and they are about even par... just in time, because she is expecting a baby ASAP...
Several of my aunts dished out anywhere from 10-20,000 for their weddings because the husbands at the time didn't have it...
What do you mean by the comment about guys taking longer to mature and want to get married? Are you saying a lot of immature guys rush into marraige??
No, I'm saying, at least in my opinion, guys take more time to want to settle down. In fact, I've only known a couple guys who got married at about 21-22, and I remember thinking that all of them (except 1) were way to immature. And those are the couples that constantly fight in public now.
Yeah that makes sense... I didnt think about that aspect of it... I can see how guys who didnt want to settle down never really get to grow up, because once you did everything you wanted to do when you are single, thats when you really start taking things seriously and thats when you contemplate about settling down.
If you rush, you could blame your mate as someone who prevented you from having fun in life, or restricted you from really doing what you want in life. Hence the public fighting and the disrespecting of each other, another thing that obviously isnt good for a healthy marraige
Maybe. I actually would like to get married now tho. Only, it might be not until several or more realistically speaking. Especially since I don't have a girl or money. heh