Brotherman, while I understand your point and how having children affected your life, I've personally seen many scenarios of families ripped apart-both parents and children leaving Jehovah. The pa...
I agree. I'm not advocating to go out and have them if you are not ready. I'm just saying once you do, it'll make you a stronger person than when you were kidless, if you do things the right way.
so.... okay.. let me get this straight
IF you're ready to have kids (how one knows this is beyond me), and IF you do things the right way (which there are what, 10000 variations) , THEN having kids is gonna make you stronger
it's still a crazy statement but it's better than saying people without kids are out of touch with reality and having kids makes you see things clearly
at least you put some "ifs" into the staetment now which make it a little bit more reasonable... sort of...
hey i know this really nice and strong spiritual woman who has no legs, i think i'm gonna go cut off my legs because obviously it'll make me really strong and open my eyes to reality
When you have to take care of another individual of course it opens up your perception of reality more. You have to be more self-sacrificing. You'll see when the time comes.
There's one variation in the truth. Raise them to know and love Jehovah. I'm not talking about parenting techniques as far as discipline goes. That'll be different with everyone.
ok
but please don't say "WHEN"
why does it have to be "WHEN"
When you have kids
to me having kids is about as desirable as having my legs amputated so I woudl hope that it is not a question of WHEN but IF
thank you
Ok Catwoman. Hahaha....
in all seriousness, arguing on this topic is pointless and I am ashamed that i have participated in it at all, but like i said it is a sore spot for me because I have been dealing with this my whole life, being told that something is WRONG with me because I have zero desire to give birth. I think there is plenty wrong with me but the fact that I don't want to have kids is NOT wrong and it does NOT make me less of a person. haha.
and by the way, when i was dating my husband I told him, that if he wants to have kids he should marry someone else, i did not hide my intentions, and i have not changed my mind, and he doesn't wanna have kids either, and he is a VERY strong and amazing person
And I salute you for your accomplishments and growth as a result of having kids. yay for you!!
Once again, I never said a person cannot be strong without kids. And you are definitely not strange for choosing to be childless. I'd stand there next to you and defend you amongst people like that. Having children is a heavy responsibility. It shows people how strong they really can be. But if the thought makes you afraid, then you are better off not taking that step. It shows you are responsible. Too many irresponsible people bring kids into the world.
ok, cool, we're cool yo
You obviously feel so strongly about this because your children have made you appreciate reality. Personally, I find it admirable to look at the example of people who have spiritual "children" that they've led to Jehovah - full time servants that have sacrificed pretty much everything they have to help people learn the truth. They see everyday the gross reality of what's happening in this world. It affects them so deeply that they are willing to forgo things they may really want (like having children) so they can have more time to give everyone the wake-up call they so desperately need.