jealousy is a waste of time and slander is an even bigger waste of time however i can understand how girls can get crazy because of the tremendous pressure that is put on girls to get married ...
That definitely seems like the issue in the truth when it comes to marriage. And thats why sisters tend to make themselves believe that this is the guy for them, regardless of how many red flags co...
see this is what i was thinking. except for a few select pimps, since dating is such a serious thing its like people date and then they just get married. so girls just get super competitive and jea...
Lauren and I talk about this all the time. In the truth, dating is SUCH a serious thing that our minds automatically calculate "dating + time = marriage", and we create built in clocks - "oh, they've been dating 4 months? are they engaged? When are they getting engaged?"
We have to stop and realize that serious dating is OK - and talking about marriage is OK without planning anything at all, especially in the beginning. As soon as Lauren and I started dating, I was asking her questions starting with the words "if we were married ... ?"
For instance ..."if we were married and I was a servant or an elder and I spent a significant amount of time with congregation responsibilities, how would you feel?"
or
"if we were married would you be ok with cooking dinner every night if I did the dishes afterward?"
or
"how would you rather be in the congregation - a quiet, reliable person who's always at the meetings, or a pillar who does their best to be a strong supportive member of the congregation?"
Because all these things matter to me a huge amount, it would make or break if I wanted to marry her. A lot of people asked me during that time "are you talking about marriage?" my answer would be "of course - if you're dating, you gotta be talking about marriage", and they'd get really upset that I'd been dating 2 weeks and was "talking marriage", but NOT "oh i'm buying a ring soon and we're talking about a wedding in the fall", but more in-depth, because i was focusing on getting to know my Lauren and make sure she was the kind of person i COULD be married to.
I DISPISE when anyone asks me when any of my friends are getting married. The answer I always give is "when they're ready". Because it's their lives, not yours, you pathetic loser.
if possible, you should mark yourself informative on this comment.
i can. consider it done.
very, very well said. thanks for that, bro.
wise words
I despise that too
That happened to me a couple of times when I was home visiting my old circuit. I was approached so many times by sisters asking if I was getting married. I wanted to shove my left hand in their face and asked if they saw an engagement ring. I have a diamond ring, I am gonna start wearing it from now on when I go back so they all leave me alone.