i agree with this. if you are a single brother in the truth it is so much easier. a single sister has a much tougher time-there just aren't as many.
maybe you should travel.
Make a list of sisters for me then. I'll cross off names as I go. LOL!
I dont think anyone should travel far distances just to find a mate. If someone does do that, they will have too high hopes and if they dont find anyone their depression and sadness would get worse. Just wait, and be patient someone might show up, you never know... just dont be too picky because you may just turn down some of the best options out there...
no, i didn't mean travel far distances. i wouldn't do that, and wouldn't recommend it to someone else. then you look like you are desperate and "on the hunt." but it doesn't hurt to go visit other congregations your friends attend, or tag along to their assembly. maybe you meet someone, maybe not. if you concentrate more on having a nice time with friends you shouldn't be disappointed.
Yeh, well, I'm gonna travel far distances & I am on the hunt. There... I said it. A match hasn't arrived right in front of me, so I have to go seeking. I think one can still travel and not be desperate, as long as the travel is for other purposes as well. Like I love travel in itself & want to explore other places... meanwhile if a future potential wife comes along during the times of travel, I obviously wouldn't oppose starting such a relationship just because it was on my faraway travels. I'm just as open to a relationshiop that comes to me in my immediate area too.. just that it hasn't happened. And I can't say I know anymore girls around here that I like and haven't tried seeing if she likes me as well. In other words, I can't find a girl that likes me back around my locale. Actually got asked out by a girl a couple days ago, but shame that it was me that wasn't attracted to her. So, had to kindly decline that start of that relationship. So, so far, looks like I have to rely on traveling the world like a pikey. I'm not very likable in these parts it seems. :(
I met a nice sister in Texas. We are now good friends. You never know who you are going to meet in your travels. It could be a person that'll end up being your wife one day. You just can't be gung ho like some and propose marriage after knowing them for a month. LOL! The things some people do amaze me. I try to remind myself that any person I marry, will be with me for eternity. So I have to make sure it's a ripe apple I'm picking, not a rotten one at the bottom of a barrel.
what if it's near the middle of the barrel... sweet but a tad mealy, maybe a little out of season but somewhat refreshing nonetheless??
Hahaha.... Well I guess if you can stomach it, go for it.
Yeh, well, I'll most likely spend more than a month getting to know a lady. ...my "travels" are gonna be more like mini-settlements, rather then speedy vacations. Something like 4 months there, 12 months there, 14 months there, so on... well hopefully I find a sweet lady before I reach "so on."
What kind of job do you have? That's an interesting lifestyle.
Well, I want to start the journey next year. Has nothing to do with my current job. I'm temporarily employed at Bloomberg for a contract project in global corporate news syndication and if I'm hired as a Bloomberg employee at one of their locations abroad, like London, Sydney, or Frankfurt, I'd accept it - not that it's likely I can expect such a thing. If I'm hired to work in NYC or Princeton where I'm at now, I'd decline taking the job and set sail... going to different countries with different jobs... I got a real plan though, as crazy and unguided as it sounds. Sounds foolish to maybe everyone, but whatever.. gotta live your own life and follow your own passion, not someone else's idyllic perspective of living. Yeh bruva.
What area are you from? Because I agree with you the good and available sisters in this area have all been taken, its like a drought. I still believe though that there will be some potentials that will move into the area... I hope the fountains will come on and the options will once again flurish in the area... Im probably wrong, but I dont have any other option, but to be patient...
Pennsylvania, bro. theres tons of them out there. just sitting there. waiting.
HAHA. It's true...you seem to do well in PA.
Dude... PA girls are weird no offense to any PA girls, but from my experience they are a little weird... (I mean there are some exceptions, but the majority are weird)
ehhh, i'll half agree. you're just used to the girls over where you are. folks from other regions will always think folks in neighboring regions are weird. s'the way it is.
stillllll, there IS something strange about PA girls. folks over there are just raised a lil differently and it's that fundemental difference that shapes regionally unique adults. and you can't... or shouldn't fault it.
I dont fault it, but what you said makes sense. How you are raised and where you are raised makes a huge difference in what qualities or personalities you acquire. And I suppose that this difference is what makes the PA girls a little weird...
come to CA there are plenty. lol
Oh really? You should send them out this way, to Jersey, they will love it.... we have everything Cali has the Beach, the Mountains and the City... see what you can do and get back to me...
um ive been to jersey. i wouldnt wish that on my worst enemy! LOL JK
have you ever been to CA?
Think I have a chance in Cali? I know you question wasn't for me.. but I'm curious about my own potentials. haha
I have been to CA, its a great place... but its too far away from NYC... When you say you have plenty single girls, whats the age range?
19 - 25
Interesting, you dont find many good single sisters around this are between the ages of 21-25 that are still available. And why are those sisters still single? Is there a drought of brothers out there?
well its not BIG to get married young here like it is there ya know. there are like 20 girls to one guy. AND a lot of the guys here opt for worldly girls. its strange. but yeah they're not tore up girls either. def good looking.
WELL, now that you say it that way (20 - 1), when would be a good time to visit... haha
its SoCal...anytime is a good time! LOL
Forget New York City man. You'll have Angel City & Hollywood. What's it about New York that you gotta hang on to? People think I'm weird for wanting to leave this area completely. But, I think it's weird wanting to stay in the NJ suburbs. I'm so unstimulated here... I need excitement. New experiences. Not forever and a day of the same boredom I grew up in. The only thing I look foward to each week is a band practice on a Saturday or Sunday... other than that, what am I doing here? Maybe Applebees once in awhile for an appetizer and cocktail, watching a lame movie at someone's apartment, Philly once a month, and maybe New York like 3 times a year nowadays or whatever. What kind of living is that? Bleak.
Well thats because you dont live less than 20 minutes from the city. NYC could be practically considered a weekly thing for me. I agree with change, but there are certain things you will miss if you move away from this area...
Miss what... Paying the outrageous prices for housing? The only thing I'd miss is going into the city for sporting events.
The only thing I really go to New York for is shows. And any proper city has shows. There's a funny experience to relate... One time I got into an argument (not really an argument but like a psuedo-debate) with someone because they didn't see any difference between London and Brooklyn. They were saying like, I don't see why you love London so much, it's everything Brooklyn is.. why don't you just move to Brooklyn. Ummm... no, not at all.
My distance from NYC has nothing to do with it. I drive an hour and 15 minutes one way, 5 times a week for work. It's 52 miles one way. I can go to NYC just as often as the next person. There was a time when I went to NYC every Monday night. Apparently you just like NYC a whole bunch more than I do. haha Which is coo. Everyone has their favourites. If you love NYC that much... than yeh, you should stay near NYC and not move away.
Well, I dont know how much I LOVE it. I mean, I would leave it if I had a better opportunity to, but its hard to compare other cities to NYC... I guess its just that Im used to it and its a good way to just clear your mind. You go into the city you walk around and you can just loose yourself and sit back and watch other people... Than you come home and get back to your life...
Guess you gotta evaluate and weigh the options. Personally, I've already decided to move away from this region, as much as the friends in the band are trying to get me to move to Philly (which I almost listened to.. and probably think I'll still be doing). I think the fact is, in my own situation, I can't expect any new girls to move into this area. The new ones that are gonna be moving into the area from this point on, are gonna be married. I highly doubt a single girl around my age is gonna be coming to town.. I live in a place catered to married couples, families, and the aged.. so highly unlikely I'll be seeing any prospects staying here.
As sad as that sounds its true. Its the same in my area too, not many single sisters in my age group will move here... this area is catered for people who can afford to live here and most single sister or brother cant afford it...
yeah you do live in an area to where being married is THE THING to do. it seems like you're an outcast if your not married. *this is MY opinion
and being in areas like this you have to be careful cause there are wrong reasons for ones wanting to be married too instead of genuine love ya know.
*again MY opinion
everyone should do what makes them happy, not just cuz it's what other people are doing
and that is the way it should be....but majority of the time its not.
You're rright. I do feel like an outcast. Don't worry, I'll only marry out of love & only date out of love. Otherwise life will be miserable. So, in the meantime, moving from exciting city to exciting city will be what I do to enjoy life.
Glad I'm not the only one that feels like an outcast. Haha... It was funny, when I went to a congregation in South Texas, an elder there was introducing me to all the single sisters. So it definitely depends on the area. Some areas don't have many available brothers. That was one of them.
definitely. the way you are raised has a huge impact on who you turn out to be as an adult. like in pennsylvania, you can marry into your own family, or eat horse meat, and paint chips. you know, it's not really THAT weird. you cant really fault them on it. you'd think it was normal if you were born there.
hahaha... good point, well stated.
I watched a little kid eat paint chips off a window sill one time while working for a drilling company in East Orange. haha...
Oh no, hopefully he didn't get lead poisoning.
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