Oh well... Back to the drawing board...
sorry to hear it, pal
What happend?
I guess I felt she was more of a friend than a potential marriage mate. I tried. But she could tell I wasn't in it 100%. It wasn't fair to either of us to continue things. Maybe it's just bad timing. I don't know... Raising kids alone and all the other responsibilities that come with being an adult consume my time and energy. I guess I don't have the energy to commit to another person at the moment.
wow. are you serious? im sorry. i feel bad for her too. REALLY bad for her.
I have a "wall" I need to break down before I will be ready for anyone. I think that is why I had hot and cold feelings toward my relationship with her. So my goals are to make all the meetings, increase my service time, be a more nurturing father like I once was, make more time for study, change my diet, and make sure I go to the gym. I think I've let myself become hardened a bit. Right now I have no inner peace. So I'm going to stick to the goals I have laid out. It will make me more sound in mind and body. And who knows, maybe one day things will be different between Jessie and I. I'm certainly not taking the breakup well either. But, we have agreed to in time see each other again as friends.
i know. that is why you need to BE FRIENDS for a while. you knew you had a wall before, knew you needed to increase service etc and you hurt a good girl in the process.
like im BIG on backing you guys up on how majority of the girls are whack, cause about 80% of em are. but when you do things like that, you hurt someone, you cant wonder how maybe SOME of these girls act whack cause of what guys have done to them? like DONT play with feeling people. i can see if you are NOT compatible, or someone is mental etc. BUT just cause you have a "wall" or "you're not ready" or "you need to increase service and meetings" will mess the girl up. ESP since you know all this before. ya know what i mean?
Yeah, I see what you're saying. I think good will come out of it though. In time...
just dont hurt anyone else and TOTALLY work on yourself before you jump in the dating game again! :P
No, you're right. I'm not dating anyone until I have made some breakthrough changes and I am feeling like a million bucks.
We talked and are going to take a break for awhile and revisit things at another time.
good. is she ok?
She's pretty tough. I know she's upset, but she appreciated my honesty. When I'm ready, we're going to hang out again. I feel bad, she hasn't told her dad yet and he likes me a lot. I told her to just tell him we're taking time to reflect on things and to make adjustments and that we'll revisit things in the future.
so, you'd be mad if i starting going out with her?
I'd beat you senseless.
good. is she ok?
i hope the best for all of you
Thanks buddy.