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ok4now Sep 19, 2003

so when is it ok to sit toghether at the meeting?

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toxicgirlOG 2003

Haha. The first time I sat with my boyfriend at his meeting an elder in his hall told us that if we can't keep our courtship honorable we should go to the Justice of the Peace. I guess sitting together is a sign of bad things to come.

thatdarngirl thatdarngirlOG 2002

whoa..that's rough. For some reason..no one has ever approached my on my relationship. It's been made pretty clear, I think, but nothing has ever been said to me. Wait.that's a lie. It was clearly explained there is to be no physical contact at assemblies (touch his arm..hugs..etc.)

tesoro tesoroOG 2001

wait what?! are you serious? so you couldnt hold his hand walking around at the convention?

thatdarngirl thatdarngirlOG 2002

Well..it started with his arm on the back of my chair (not around me..I can still how this is a problem anyways) but because he was obviously poking the person next to me. So I was told I shouldn't be letting that happen which pretty much turned into no public displays of affection at the assemblies.

ophelia opheliaOG 2003

I dunno if that was an example of what I'm about to mention or not, but you know what I can't stand?!..when people, older people, take something that's no more than their opinion, and try to push it on younger people as fact and make it seem like they have scriptural basis, cause they're old & they can do stuff like that w/out getting questioned, lol...Like I said, your situation might not have been an example of that at all..but..sheesh

thatdarngirl thatdarngirlOG 2002

Sometimes old people say funny things about dating to..example:

I was in the car out in service with two older sisters (like..old) and I wasn't really paying to much attention to what they were asking me so when they asked if I had like a single boy I was serious about and I said "no.." I do stuff like that a lot when I'm not paying attention, I just answer without even going over the question first. Well, they said that this was good because you shouldn't just stay with one boy, I should have fun and go out with as many boys as I want to. Perhaps they should rewrite the YPA book?

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toxicgirlOG 2003

I love warped advice. That's right, go sow your wild oats.

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toxicgirlOG 2003

I didn't take offense, this brother is cool and I was told he sometimes says things that are off the wall. However, it isn't right for someone to push their beliefs of what is right and wrong on you--when it has no scriptural basis. AND IT HAPPENS ALL THE TIME!!! Personal opinions should be left out of counsel. I shudder to think what my Mom would have done to that elder if I had followed his advice.

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