if a guy doesn't make the move all on his own...he doesn't want you bad enough anyway, and isn't worth the trouble
that's your opinion because you're CHICKEN!! too scared to take a chance, i bet
when i see somebody worth taking a chance on...i'll do it...anyway, my mom says that the guy should like you more then you like him...and i think it's true, i'm not into chasing guys...too many gir...
well, ya know what...i decided i don't agree...because if you see a guy, who is cute or something, but he doesn't show any interest in you...so what? You were just basing your interest on his looks anyway. If you know a guy, and you're friends with him, and he doesn't like you back, well that's okay...keep being friends with him, you're right, maybe he isn't ready for it, but making advances is only going to push him further away. My point isn't, give up on guys completely if they don't like you, my point is...don't put your whole heart into somebody who isn't going to like you, because you'll just get hurt.
see, i don't agree with that either. getting hurt is OK, because it makes you appreciate the person who really IS worthwhile even more. you can't spend your life going "sorry, can't get hurt, dont' talk to me", while burying your feelings in the sand so you don't get your ego bruised. that's not how the world works. GET OUT THERE! GET YOUR HEART BROKEN! EXPERIENCE THE FEELINGS! Dashboard made $$$ on this, so can you.
I can't believe I am saying this...but I kinda agree with Dan. Another benefit to getting hurt--sometimes you start to see the person in a realistic light. You find out that you were just infatuated and that you were totally overlooking major flaws or major reasons why it wasn't going to work. At least in my case, it has sometimes taken rejection and disappointment to reach enlightenment.
yeah. see. that's what i'm saying. but i think you see what you really DID like about that person, and separate that from THEM. like, they really liked kids, or they treated their parents well, or they could cheer up a sad person really easily, some quality that attracted you. qualities attract in the big adult world, not looks. but - so many girls...don't show any qualities. they show that they know where all the parties are. i hate that. i could find all the parties on my own, if i really wanted to go.
yyyyup...humans are forever voluntarily blinding themselves to obvious flaws&negative personality traits simply because of infatuation...not that we shouldn't look for the good in people, but, a mistake made by many is basing everything on emotion & totally ignoring things that you KNOW might piss you off about this person if you get involved...because after you're going out w/a girl for a while, the physical aspect of the attraction kinda becomes common place & what you're really affected by is personality, which can make a hot girl ugly or an attractive girl even more beautiful
who cares if you appreciate the person even more? I've loved...i appreciated...but i can't have them...so where does that get me? Really, i'd rather be without the pain then knowing i loved them...not that i'd trade it all in...but, I wouldn't be so quick to rush into a relationship that i knew wouldn't work out...i think you watch too many movies...not every relationship has to be a struggle
wow...are you serious...every relationship is a struggle, one way or another..you may not realize it right away, because the beginning can be smooth. eventually issues do appear. You've loved and appreciated...that's good. Now, you know what you like, and what you appreciate. You'll value those qualities in the next person you become interested in. But you NEVER would have known what those qualities were if you just rejected people left and right because they didn't like you back right away.
nobody can get to know everybody though, it's impossible...so you aren't getting to know if you'd really click with those people...unless you get every person's number at every party....you may, but I...dont. You guys are not getting what i'm saying....i am just saying, that i dont jump on every guy i think is cute to trade phone numbers with me....because, if it's meant to be....i'll run across him again, i'll have talked to him enough the first time to get it, or...it'll just work out somehow....i'm not crying in my room because i thought hey, that guy was cute...i wonder if it could have worked out, darn after he said hello, i should have asked him for his phone number
this is a majorly wussy way to deal with relationships. i have less respect for girls that risk nothing in their relationships. the girls who sit and wait for guys to scoop them up are just weak. if a major component in your attraction to males is the fact that HE likes YOU--i dunno--it won't turn out right. girls should always put at least a little work in. the feeling of meeting someone half way and working toward a very special connection is pure bliss.
ugh, everybody is misunderstanding what i'm saying...so this is it....i'm done posting here...just disregard it all, okay?
Hey its ok. Nobody can force an opinion on you. Relationships are big deal stuff. Do whats right for you.
brian...you are definitely right. i admire the risk takers, because i like the "am i in control? or is she?" ideas that constantly flow through your head. hahah.