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tinser Nov 4, 2003

if a guy doesn't make the move all on his own...he doesn't want you bad enough anyway, and isn't worth the trouble

skaorsk8 Nov 4, 2003

that's your opinion because you're CHICKEN!! too scared to take a chance, i bet

tinser Nov 4, 2003

when i see somebody worth taking a chance on...i'll do it...anyway, my mom says that the guy should like you more then you like him...and i think it's true, i'm not into chasing guys...too many gir...

yodasucka Nov 4, 2003

i totally support this comment.. if the guy is interested... he'll make the move on his own... of corse we can do our part in flirting and letting him know that we are at least a little interested....

fivezero Nov 4, 2003

we can be. that much is true. and when we are: boy, is it a mess. it's funny how girls go around saying stuff like that and guys don't, for the most part. nowadays girls are raised to have what...

tinser tinserOG 2002

that's what i mean....i think it's good for the relationship to be mutual...but when a girl chases a guy who clearly doesn't like her...it only creates problems. I've seen it happen, and I don't think its good...its not even good when a guy chases a girl too much, but it happens less often and seems to be more accepted.

esprit15d esprit15dOG 2003

This is probably gonna come out wrong, but, here goes...I think there is something in men that they intuitively don't like to be chased. It might be environmental, as in, guys are raised to do the chasing. But regardless, I've seen girls use pretty mild tactics, like asking for a phone number, or calling a guy to go to a movie, and be labeled a hussy. And the inverse of that is that I think a lot of girls feel like if a guy isn't willing to take the initiative in a relationship, there probably isn't anything there. There are NO blanket rules, of course. But I think these situations must have arisen for a reason. Being a girl myself, I have no objections to showing I'm potentially interested, say dropping a guy a postcard when I'm out of town or seeking him out for conersation at a party. But I wouldn't "chase" a guy, like ask for a date, or worse, just tell him I'm interested, because I know that guys generally assume this role, and the fact that he isn't probably means something - that he isn't interested. I'm much more comfortable just making it clear that I'm available and enjoy his company.

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