On Why My Life is Very Messed Up
by This is going to be like a real journal. I need to just write everything on my mind out... you can comment if you want but it’s more like therapy to just vent it all out.
You ever make a whole plan for your life? Like, you just think about what you want to do and you don't really tell other people, but it’s all in your head. You know how the next couple of years will turn out. Well, I did that. I had this whole plan for my life. I was going to work over the summer, save up money for college. Go to a community college-maybe even take off a semester or a year in order to save up enough. I was going to work at my current job as a nanny until I was ready to start school. I was going to live up here. In Bergen County where I’ve lived my whole life. I was going to be with all my friends, all the people I’ve known forever that mean so much to me. I was going to be away from my family, but I figured I could deal with that. I was going to do it all on my own. Make my own choices, do as I please, run my own life…
And then, I entered the real world. The world of tuition, health insurance, car insurance, cars, rent, food… a world that I wasn’t really expecting. I mean I knew it was there, I just never thought it all through. And then my parents helped clue me in a little and my whole life plan has changed. Hopefully, it’s not too late…
I am now moving 3 hours away to live with my family in their new house in Vineland. My parents are taking over all my expenses, which I am thankful for. But, I already screwed up pretty bad. I didn’t apply to any colleges… so now I probably will end up having to wait a whole semester before starting school. Which is unneeded now that I have the money to start in September.
So basically, the moral of my sad tale is- don’t rush growing up until you’re actually ready for it. Or, you’ll just screw up...
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Darling, you still have plenty of time to apply to college! There is probably a community college nearby where you're going to be so here is my advice (even if you didn't ask for it):
Go to the Community College that's nearby for at least the first semester, maybe even the first year. That way you can finish school as fast as you can! During that first semester you'll have plenty of time to look for other schools and while looking you'll also be gaining credits which is very helpful!
that is going to end up to be what i'm doing any way. I can't get in any where now but a community college.. and theres one about 5 minutes from my *new* ::tear:: home...its just ... dissappointing to find out that what i THOUGHT was going to happen really isn't going to happen at all
I know sweetie..we'll come visit and play and kidnap you!!
school is useless, ditch it
that's a public service announcement that never really caught on
this is HORRIBLE advice! are you planning on supporting me when i end up not being able to get a good paying job since i won't have a degree?! haha when i was like in elementary school and some one would ask me what i was going to be when i grew up... i would always say "nothing. i'm marrying a rich man so i won't have to work" LOL! man, do i wish THAT would happen...
There are plenty of people who get along just fine without a college degree.
yea we got a millionaire and a professor in my hall and they BOTH told me i should get my GED. n plus as long as u rely on Jeh you'll be rich ;) i mean...sustenance and covering...yea..so a tent'll be fine ;)
that is so funny you say that, one of my friends said the smae thing a few years back!
well...ever since i saw him wearing a flashing budweiser pin when he was in a wedding i figured i shouldnt even try...plus his name...its great. u can wear it
i'll keep that in mind big sis, sorry to know you learned the hard way :/
dude, mel, this is not a screw-up. you're 18. man, you have so much time and life ahead of you. you can still do stupid stuff and say "it's ok, i'm a teenager" and everyone will say "yeah, that's true, ok, you can go".
anyway, go to college, learn what's REALLY important (i'll tell you what that is right now - learn to think for yourself, budget your time and expenses, and when you don't know the answer, keep talking to people who are smarter than you until you GET the answer. then put it in a spreadsheet. you may know the spreadsheet part already.)
and...most importantly...this can NOT be stressed enough...if you're living at home...SAVE MONEY!! HARDCORE!!! i am kicking myself for not saving more over the years. make it fun. (use ING Direct.)
lastly...if you can...just get out there and pioneer. or cont. aux. because...that's something you can always look back on and draw from those experiences. good return visits, friendships built in service, helping in the congregation. all worthwhile.
i kno i kno i kno... if it was a real screw up- i prolly wouldn't have my parents to fall back on haha but i do and they are just fixing it all
and since you are one of the people who is "smarter then me".. just what is ING Direct? haha
and i will be pioneering once i get to Vineland cuz my parents told me that i won't have to work... so thats one good thing about this whole mess
Whoah..why don't my parents say this to me? My dad says take more credits oh..and get a job.
yeah my dad says taht to me too....and i dont know whats gonna happen if i get an unpaid internship!! :(
it's a bank with no walls, save online and get like 2.3% interest. Dave Song told me about it. It's really good. they do direct deposit too.
Have you ever had any problems with it?
dave song!! oh man he is the ultimate asian robot
what in the name of bolly are u talking about? DAve Song has NOTHING to do with anything i said!
this is all really good advice...i gotta agree with all of it. i think he hit on most of the points i'd want to say, but i wanna add this...
...making mistakes is part of life, not even necessarily being young (though it happens the most often then, becuase of inexperiance), but the point is...no mistake is unrepareable. That's the great thing about life...it's ongoing..you mess up, you fix it, sure it might be harder to fix, but if you learn from it...you might be better off having made that mistake after all. So, my overall point is, don't worry MEL! It seems big now, but once it's past, it won't be that big of a deal.
In the words of dory from finding nemo, "just keep swimmin', just keep swimmin'"
oh, and what dan said about talking to people who are smarter then you....that's priceless. Sounds like you already really appreciate your parents advice...thats great
you know...between the two of us...sooo many things about growing up...like (this is REALLY important, i never realized how much until lately)
try and CONNECT with people emotionally WHENEVER you can. Don't think "oh, I can't have a conversation with that person". Your friends, householders, friend's parents - it doesn't matter. When you understand where a person is coming from, what they're about, who they want to be - not just "what music do you like", you can really say you KNOW that person. i have friends i've hung out with for years, and i don't really KNOW. For field service, when you really try to connect with people, REALLY care about their opinions and their lives, at EVERY door - people can tell. that will be part of your personality. and people will be drawn to that.
*(i am currently working on this.)
WOW this was so sweet and SO true! Thats one thing i've learned, always "learn" about others, really care and take into consideration what they're about.
I'm working on this also. I devoloped some real relationships in service simply by asking how did you come into the truth? or What obstacles did you have to overcome in your service to Jehovah?
I completly understand what you are saying, I went through the same thing. It's like when your in high school, you can create all these ideas and plans, and outline for yourself how your life will be. In my former plans, I'm supposed to be opperating my own sales organization. It can really be frustrating when things don't turn out the way you expected. "Expectation postponed is making the heart sick". Keep in mind that "there is a frustrating of plans where there is no confidential talk", so talk to your parents about your goals and outlook, they be pleased that you sought their advice. From my brief time in this life, experience has taught me to "Seek first the kingdom and his righteousness and all these other things will be added to you". And as was highlighted at our last school and service meeting, you don't have a lot of time to "Back pack around Europe". The time left is reduced, therfore be sound in mind and vigilent with a view towards prayers.
ill miss you when you move smelie
ur gunna miss me more tho right????? my cute smile????
your stinky butt? ;)
where is vineland?
It's about an hour south of Philly.
aw mel, that'll be cool. instead of having nyc right there now you'll have philly.
theres also a vineland alll the way down in south jersey. i have a good man there.
That's the one I was referring to. Is there another one?
several, i'm sure. i just didn't make the connection. apologies, daniel-one point zero.