New Release: Reasoning With The Sisters

A new publication is now available. It's called

"Reasoning with the Sisters".

Single brothers are encouraged to read and apply.

REASONING WITH THE SISTERS

Introductions . . .

CURRENT EVENTS

"Good evening. My name is ---- ----. I'm a brother

from (name congregation). Did you see the TV news

last night? . . . That report on (mention some current

item of concern, but don't talk about cars or sports),

what did you think about it? . . . It is not unusual for

sisters to be concerned about these issues, but I

believe that we are living in a time when we should be

getting to know each other better." (Ask her to go

out witnessing.)

LOVE/KINDNESS

"I have found many sisters are quite concerned about

the lack of available brothers in the surrounding

congregations. Do you feel that way too? Why do you

think this is the trend? Did you know that I was

interested in you?" (Explain the reason why.)

WHEN SISTERS SAY: "I'M BUSY"

"Hi. My name is ---- ----. I wanted to discuss with

you how we can get to know each other better. But I

can see that you are busy (or about to go home). May

we get together for lunch on Saturday after field

service and discuss it further?

How You Might Respond To Potential Conversation

Stoppers

"I'M NOT INTERESTED"

"May I ask, do you mean that you are not interested in

me or is it brothers in general that don't interest

you? I ask that because I have met many sisters who

at one time were interested in brothers, but aren't

anymore because they think brothers are hypocritical

(or they feel brothers are chauvinistic; or they feel

brothers today are not spiritual enough, etc.) I don't

approve of such attitudes myself and if you get to

know me I believe we could both look to the future

with confidence.

OR

If you mean that you're not interested in having

another boyfriend, I can understand that. But more

likely you are interested in your future. Can you see

any prospect for a relationship in the future?

OR

Is that because you already have a boyfriend? . . .

Tell me, do you think you will ever see a time when it

will work out? . . . What seems to stand in the way?

"I'M NOT INTERESTED IN YOU"

Many sisters tell me that. Have you ever wondered why

brothers like myself keep trying, even though sisters

generally may not be interested?

OR

I can appreciate that, because I used to feel the same

way about a sister. But, just to be fair, I decided

to listen to her. And I found out that I hadn't been

told the truth about her. Now we are good friends.

OTHER TIPS:

Keeping good records is the key to following up and

developing a study of each other in the future. Never

ask if she got a chance to read the letters you wrote,

instead, ask if she had any questions. Always mention

that she could make a voluntary donation of time spent

with you. Be sure to make definite arrangements to

get together again...naming the date and time. And

remember, give HER the chance to accept or refuse...we

cannot pre-judge.

Finally, if she refuses, it is not you that is being

rejected, rather, it is your message of commitment.

COMING SOON -- Insight On The Sisters. . .already 7

volumes, and continuing to grow.

Sisters - What Happens to Us When They Cry?

Knowledge That Leads to an Everlasting Wife.