any thoughts?
by Personally, I think those who say that "the first year of marriage is the hardest and worst" must have married the WRONG person. And then after a year of pure agony they are just used to that person.. and have "grown to love" them and all their weirdnesses.
Also those who believe that crap before they are married, must be about to marry the wrong person, or they are just, gay, and afraid that it will come out in the first year of their marriage.
any thoughts?
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i think that getting married costs too much money. like, if i am the groom, i gotta pay at LEAST 4 thousand for a ring before the girl will even LOOK at it, THEN i have to get ANOTHER ring for a wedding band, plus I gotta pay for the honeymoon. AND why don't I get a shower where people buy me gifts (like video games?) If you ask me, the whole thing is rigged.
Girls put waaaaaaaaaaaaayyyyyyy too much emphasis on the ring. Sometimes. That's ridiculous, 4 grand?? WOW. Well maybe that's just me. AND just think - usually the bride or her parents pay for everything else, which is usually like 30 grand. That is an OUCH. Anyways.. just my thoughts.
hello, the shower is for both of you and it's things you need, not toys. besides, my husband registered for a game boy advanced when i was looking and one of his friends got it for him. doesn't hurt to try.
hmmm but i already HAVE a game boy advance. I was actually thinking about selling it so I can get the new game boy that's coming out next month. but i like your thinking, beachbum. too bad you're married already.
well, if you get married w/i the couple of months, you can register for the new one and save yourself the trouble of buying it. btw, if you are going to register for something like that, make sure your wife doesn't like it too. i took over that gameboy like nobody's business.
Exactamondo. And as far as the expense - I would have been happy with a .25 cent ring out of a bubble gum machine. I duno, i think it's about the LOVE not the SHOWY DISPLAY OF ONE'S MEANS OF LIFE
HAHHAHAHHAhaHA you really expect that it's gonna work that way?? PLEASE. my mom and sister lectured me for an hour after i suggested that the engagement ring be the wedding ring too.
yeah, well that's just cheap. the ring doens't have to be enormous, but i think that just being able to get her one, even a small one, shows some financial stability. if you can't even afford a ring, no way in heck you can afford marriage.
no i think ur wrong. i dont know how they do it out in the boondocks.. but the bigger the ring .. the bigger chance youll get married or something like that
i am totally going with you one this. from the point of a girl, i would only need one ring. like forget the whole engagement ring thing, why do you need one? people know you're getting married, why do they need the ring. and having to wear 2 rings all the time to show that you're married?? that's crazy. you only need 1!!!!!!!
thank you malibu. if I ever meet a girl that's worthy, I would like for you to influence her in this regard. Yes.
my dad couldn't afford a real nice ring so he gave my mom a gold one with a red stone-i don't even think it's a ruby and a really simple gold wedding band. then for their 15th he bought her one with diamonds.
I have to agree on this point, i mean if you think that all those nighties and that lingerie are for her, think again....
4 GRAND FOR A RING!?!?! I'd spend that money on my car and toys
marriage is hard the first year b/c it's adjusting to a whole new way of life. you have to adjust your thinking about everything and take another person into consideration all the time. both people had their own way of doing things and it's not always easy to merge that into one way of doing things. plus, this system makes it hard-job stress, finances, being tired, etc. it's not necessarily the person that makes it hard, but it is a hard circumstance to adjust to sometimes. and it's not mindnumbingly aweful, it just requires a little work.
You definitely make some good points. However, to me, it's kind of like, when you have a really good friend, a best friend, and it's just effortless, like you just GET ALONG and things just WORK. I'm sure everyone's been in that situation. And then they get married and get all confused. All you have to do is treat that person the way you would your BEST FRIEND and things just WORK. I'm married for a little while now and we have YET to have a fight (dating/engaged OR married) even though things with job/money/stress/time/blah have been rough. I just don't see how this was supposed to be so hard and so much work...... oh well... whatever.
depends on how stubborn you are--or aren't. :) I definitely married my best friend, we just have different views on things sometimes and it's not always easy to give them up when you feel strongly about it.
yeah, true true. Hehe... well anyways, marriage is fun and you have nothing to be afraid of if you found the right person and if you have an open mind and are willing to adapt yourself to the other person's wants and needs. blah blah i'm getting ramblinly blabberous i gotta stop posting.
i agree it's def fun. i'm glad someone else feels that way b/c i heard the same things you did before marriage about how hard it was and stuff. i ignored it b/c obviously those people aren't very happy.
Yeah, I really think that must be it!! Well i'm glad SOME of us are proving those statements WRONG :)
well i always thought the first year wasnt the hardest. i thought that it was hard but it gets harder in a sense because after the first few years ur love kinda cools off. and then at first ud do anything and everything bring home roses blah blah blah go out of ur way. and later on u just kinda get tired of it. its like how people can get tired of their roommates or spending too much time confined with someone. but i agree if u chose the right person the beginning wont be as hard as other people. but its what comes after the beginning thats the real challenge. maybe its just me. i made all this stuff up now.
we know. everyone knows you're still wooing ty to no avail
whoa whoa.. give him some credit. there has been some avail. i mean not alot of avail. but some avail. it's just i like women. that can shape shift.
dave doesn't do any of that stuff.
nah beachbum is right. that was to no avail. thai can u please beat the crap out of beachbum for me
stop hatin cause it's true. beat yourself up. i can so beat ty up anyway-i'm at least 3 inches taller than him. but he might like it. that reminds me ty, where are my pics of you in leather pants posing like a ninja? btw dave, how about you and your brother stop making advances on my brother-that's also to no avail. he's got a gf now so its over.
listen here beachbum. you cant make decisions for your brother, just cause he has a gf doesnt mean he still doesnt want a little polish bolivian loving. i mean really who doesnt! a gf or bf cant provide what we got.
WOAH... haha...well... i think thats some fights or disaggreements arent caused by the 2 people... but maybe their families and friends putting presure on them... ya know? Especially before the wedding! Yes, No?
This all reminds me of a movie i saw called just married. These two people get married. One of them is Brittany Murphy. The other is a dork....
britney is SOOOOOOOOOOO hot.. want to touch the.... umm.. she is a great actress....
she is not hot, shes a skank!
AMEN, brother. I just went cuz she was in it, and i ended up liking the movie.
The movie was GREAT too. but she was DEF mucho hott!
I cannot wait to see that I'm sooo excited!! I was watching That 70's Show last night and I was in hysterics
outside things definitely can have an effect. it's not so much the other person that you get frustrated w/ sometimes (sometimes it is), but what happens around you.
i KNOW seriously, its crazy!
just carry a big SHUT UP sign around w/ you and when your "unsolicited advice/annoying meddler" radar goes off, just hold it up before they can even start talking.