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perrin Feb 5, 2004

The heart is more treacherous than anything else. I can attest to that. I'd have to say you need to use more reason that heart. I think escpecially in relationships you need to use more reasoning...

dgiaimo Feb 5, 2004

I agree with you. Except I'd push reason up a lot higher. Preferably closer to 70 or 80%.

tinser Feb 5, 2004

wow, i agree with perrin maybe...but i think 70 or 80 is way too high...because i think i've made that mistake before...and it was a mistake

dgiaimo Feb 5, 2004

Why do you think it's a mistake? To me, letting your heart decide anything seems to be a really bad idea, and it seems like it's a good idea to try to suppress it as much as possible.

tinser Feb 5, 2004

because...it didn't work out...i was using so much reason to try to figure things out, and i forgot to put my heart into it also...oh, he's a good guy, oh he is spiritual, oh my parents like him, o...

thatdarngirl Feb 5, 2004

If you're just using reasoning it can't work, you won't be happy! I think what Tinser said really covers it, you go "wow he's all these great things" turn around and realize you don't love him. You...

tinser tinserOG 2002

eXactly...love is the motivating force

thatdarngirl thatdarngirlOG 2002

uhuh. It's your head that produces doubts and if you are gonna be all rational then you won't survive.

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dgiaimoOG 2003

Are we working under the same definitions of reason and heart? Cause I think both the head and the heart produce doubts. The difference is that when your head produces doubts you can reason through them deciding if they're really important and if you really have to deal with them, whereas when your heart produces doubts they're absolutely paralyzing preventing you from having any idea what to do until you get your head involved to sort out the mess.

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