i don't get it...i feel like i don't read english, because i totally don't get this journal...can somebody explain it slowly to me?
a male and a female are friends. sometimes these good friends hook-up, sometimes they do not. in this entry, gr8heights was wondering if there is a "stop" point from these friends turning the fri...
aww, you edited it! haha, it makes more sense now and....i've never really been put in that situation or known people who have...so, now that i get it, i've got nothing insightful to say, haha
I dont like getting involved in conversations like this I just like reading about it. However, if your in the truth and you spend that much time with a member of the opposite sex shouldnt it be wit...
One problem, your husband/wife, boyfriend/girlfriend SHOULD BE your best friend.
If you have a best friend of the opposite sex, thats a great place to start if your looking for someone, half the job is already done.
It has nothing to do with insecurity on my part, only thing is if I date/marry someone I want to be her best friend, I want the inside jokes, the old school stories. I wanna know her likes and dislikes, her favorite movies and songs. I dont want to have to start way behind some other guy who already knows these things.
I agree on that. My husband is by far, my absolute best friend, and vice versa.
But what if a girl has a guy best friend for YEARS, and then meets a random guy? She doesn't know yet if she's gonna marry him, or even date him. Does that mean that she automatically has to give up her current best friend because she could potentially have a relationship with the random guy?
Now, if a relationship were to develop between the girl and random guy, THEN I could forsee the guy best friend maybe taking second place to the new guy. Because you're right...a husband and wife should be best friends.
Of course, I have a couple different "best friends" outside of my husband. I wouldn't neccessarily tell them EVERYTHING I would tell my husband, but my "close friends" are typically my "best friends."
And I'm done rambling now, hahaha.
I am not saying you have to give up your best friends for your husband/wife. The original question was
"Apparently there's a deadline in which two friends of the opposite sex feel it is time to determine which way to go : stay friends or "get wit.""
I am saying if you have a best friend of the opposite sex you should discuss these things, even if you dont feel something for the person he might feel that way for you. Also being someone's best friend is a great start for a relationship, and you may say well your going to lose your friend that way if it doesnt work out, well odds are you will lose him/her anyway when one of you do meet someone, its just nature.
Let me pose this question, how would you feel if you were at a party or something with a guy your seeing and his best friend (a girl) is there and they are laughing and joking and talking about things you have no idea about making you feel left out, and BTW - Shes also hot. I know this, if a guy is my best friend i know there are serious feelings there, like Peter and Jesus, how much more so with someone of the opposite sex. Sometimes you you have to check yourself and make sure your not playing with yours or his emotions.
Oh absolutely....I'm not disagreeing with you at all. i was just trying to bring up a side point, and pose a "what if" scenario as well.
Personally, if that party scenario happened to me, no, I wouldn't like it at all. I've been in similar situations and it's no fun, you're right.
oh yes, i totally agree. i'm not saying that the one i marry isn't going to take over the best friend position. I never make my boyfriends feel left out or anything like that. they totally have my attention 110%. Never have i ever made them feel uncomfortable nor uncertain of my feelings.
I love this, what you're saying. Where have you been?? Good use of the "how much more so" lol you're right, I've learned this lesson recently. It takes self-awareness.
So I guess there needs to be discussion on this matter with him...and sort of "where are we going to go from here" and I guess it's not a DEADline because I'm thinking now if the friendship remains as is, there may be check points along the way...until the finish line where he finds someone, or I find someone or we find eachother...
and plus at first, they can't know all the inside jokes. it first has to be explained to them and then they'll know it all. but at first they're gonna feel weird.