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socalgal Oct 27, 2004

(single) looks wise you can def. find "the one" and be in love right off the bat. BUT there's more to relationships than that. You have to truly KNOW the person, understand the person and TRUST t...

suchgr8heights Oct 27, 2004

You know what I can't understand? Why some people want you to know that this person is the one before you even date them! Sure, it's important to get to know them before you date but REALLY how can...

sunshyne Oct 27, 2004

i think i know what you mean. its like ppl are so afraid of being hurt, they want some guarantee you wont break their hearts before youre even sure if you know them.

suchgr8heights Oct 27, 2004

ok that too! but outsiders putting pressure on you.

socalgal Oct 27, 2004

OH....you mean influencing the thinking of the pursuer on the pursuee?? for instance, me telling you that tom is not good for you, he's this, he's that etc. before you even have the opportunity ...

suchgr8heights Oct 27, 2004

Yep! Exactly. Not that I'm the type to disregard sound advice...but sometimes people go crazy with it and make things more complicated then they are.

socalgal socalgalOG 2003

YES i totally understand. people butt in where they shouldn't. i could see if the person has the WORST rep and they're just warning you, but something innocent....they just wanna poke around where they shouldn't.

if that person listens to such and doesn't come to the conclusion themselves, then this person wouldn't be a good match since they can't make decisions on their own.

suchgr8heights suchgr8heightsOG 2003

True that Socal! I'm very quick to "run things by" people...I guess for fear I don't know what I'm doing but that's not always true and I'm finding it's not such a good idea to let people butt in.

socalgal socalgalOG 2003

if its people you trust then its ok, but its' the ones who don't know you that're jsut beng nosey!

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