It's a case by case thing for sure, but I personally would rather a guy ask me directly. I feel this way precisely because of the reasons you brought up. I'd think he was either shy, immature, or...

i do agree with you that it is case by case for the most part. there are factors-did you just meet? how long did you talk? do you have a common interest that you could invite her to (ex-show that ...

i wish i could edit my comments so i make sense. it seems like i am giving two contradicting views but i'm not. i'm just saying you might have to play it easy if you hardly said a word to her. i...