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chuggie Nov 17, 2006

just don't do it

brotherman Nov 20, 2006

I'm like 3 women later. Can't seem to hook any. Need to use a different lure or something.

thatdarngirl Nov 20, 2006

This is kind of off the top of my head...but maybe you're just going about it the completely wrong way. If you're purposefully searching out someone to date and be with...well you're going to keep...

brotherman Nov 21, 2006

I'm trying to be friends first with females and see where it goes from there. What other way are you supposed to do it? It's hard enough for me to meet anyone with two kids. Am I supposed to pla...

thatdarngirl thatdarngirlOG 2002

No, I'm just saying it seems like you're making friends with them with the intent of dating them later. Why not just make friends with..like everyone you can and one of them just might happen to turn out to be something more.

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brothermanOG 2004

Well, technically only I know that. I don't say to them "Lets be friends and date later on".

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brothermanOG 2004

The thing is, a lot of girls figure if a guy wants to hang out with them, it usually means the guy wants the girl. At least that is what one girl told me.

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gizmoEst. 2006

See, you have to tell yourself that your only doing it to make friends too. Otherwise you'll present yourself, (subconsciously, of course), in a way that appears that you're trying to date them later on. Again, it's good advice, but it is difficult to apply.

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brothermanOG 2004

I guess I need to make myself clearer. I don't go into anything expecting to suck face after a week. I go into it learning about the person and letting it go from there. The last person I hung out with automatically assumed that since I'm a guy, I wanted to date her even tho all we did was go out in service together. Which, it would have been nice to later on, but you need to be friends first. That is my angle. I've always been one in the past to not approach girls. That didn't help me either. I like this approach better. I know what I want and I'm gonna approach ones I'm interested in rather than let some girl I'm not interested in approach me.

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chuggieOG 2003

I know its been awhile but no one says suck face anymore

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brothermanOG 2004

Ah...shaddup...LOL!

superhero superheroOG 2004

yo man that "just be friends" stuff is insanity. it's ok to let a woman know up front, "hey, you might be the kind of person i could be interested in", instead of being like "ohh i want to be friends!" and then later be like "ok, now i like you, let's not be friends anymore!"

why are you trying to complicate what should be easy and fun ... ?

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brothermanOG 2004

Women are complicated creatures. The exploration of them is like trying to find your way through a mine field.

magnum magnumOG 2001

i choose the mine field!

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