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Growing old

tpham by tpham · Dec 10, 2001 · Article · 934 views

The first day of school our professor introduced himself and challenged us to get to know someone we didn't already know. I stood up to look around when a gentle hand touched my shoulder. I turned around to find a wrinkled, little old lady beaming up at me with a smile that lit up her entire being. She said, "Hi handsome. My name is Rose. I'm eighty - seven years old. Can I give you a hug?" I laughed and enthusiastically responded, "Of course you may!" and she gave me a giant squeeze. "Why are you in college at such a young, innocent age?" I asked. She jokingly replied, "I'm here to meet a rich husband, get married, have a couple of children, and then retire and travel." "No seriously," I asked. I was curious what may have motivated her to be taking on this challenge at her age. "I always dreamed of having a college education and now I'm getting one!" she told me.

After class we walked to the student union building and shared a chocolate milkshake. We became instant friends. Every day for the next three months we would leave class together and talk nonstop. I was always mesmerized listening to this "time machine" as she shared her wisdom and experience with me. Over the course of the year, Rose became a campus icon and she easily made friends wherever she went. She loved to dress up and she reveled in the attention bestowed upon her from the other students. She was living it up. At the end of the semester we invited Rose to speak at our football banquet. I'll never forget what she taught us.

from iwz: if you've already read this in a forwarded email or something, just move along, nothing to see here, move along...

She was introduced and stepped up to the podium. As she began to deliver her prepared speech, she dropped her three by five cards on the floor. Frustrated and a little embarrassed she leaned into the microphone and simply said "I'm sorry I'm so jittery. I gave up beer for Lent and this whiskey is killing me! I'll never get my speech back in order so let me just tell you what I know." As we laughed she cleared her throat and began: "We do not stop playing because we are old; we grow old because we stop playing.

There are only four secrets to staying young, being happy, and achieving success. "You have to laugh and find humor every day." "You've got to have a dream. When you lose your dreams, you die. We have so many people walking around who are dead and don't even know it!" "There is a huge difference between growing older and growing up. If you are nineteen years old and lie in bed for one full year and don't do one productive thing, you will turn twenty years old. If I am eighty-seven years old and stay in bed for a year and never do anything I will turn eighty-eight. Anybody can grow older. That doesn't take any talent or ability. The idea is to grow up by always finding the opportunity in change." "Have no regrets. The elderly usually don't have regrets for what we did, but rather for things we did not do. The only people who fear death are those with regrets."

She concluded her speech by courageously singing "The Rose." She challenged each of us to study the lyrics and live them out in our daily lives. At the years end Rose finished the college degree she had begun all those years ago.

One week after graduation Rose died peacefully in her sleep. Over two thousand college students attended her funeral in tribute to the wonderful woman who taught by example that it's never too late to be all you can possibly be.


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138 Comments

thefunkyfresh thefunkyfreshFounder

don't ever post stories that you got through emails!

tpham tphamOG 2001

.......................DIE

tpham tphamOG 2001

how was matt able to post a comment on something that has not been approved..?

thefunkyfresh thefunkyfreshFounder

because... i have ezabel powers.

iwz iwz

cause he's the other approver on the site. if i'm not around, it's his job.

g.f.s.rocks g.f.s.rocksOG 2001

Hey Ian..can I be an approver too??

krod krodOG 2001

riiiiiiiight...when i get skinny...

iwz iwz

yeah, i'm really debating whether or not to post this. i mean, i want to post something, cause it's been a few days, but this story is kinda too much like one of those forwarded emails... what do you think, matt?

tpham tphamOG 2001

it's not a forwarded email.. oh but people can go and take stories from the onion.com and post that ? i don't get it !!!

iwz iwz

yeah, posting something from the onion is different, because it's not something that people just forward and forward and forward and forward until you're so sick of seeing it that you just delete any emails that look similar to it. this story just has that same ... "feeling" about it. the story with a moral that might be fiction, might be non-fiction, but no one can tell.

tpham tphamOG 2001

i doubt anyone read this in a forwarded email.. i've never seen it..

tpham tphamOG 2001

ANYWAY - IT REALLY HAPPENED TO ME !!!!

thefunkyfresh thefunkyfreshFounder

i don't see any harm in posting it this ONE time :) i just don't want to see it become a regular occurrence that we are seeing these "is it real, or just an attempt at a tear jerker" stories on eZabel.

tpham tphamOG 2001

yea well thats what ian calls your post from the onion .. "fiction or non fiction" .. so basically the same thing... plus this was never agreed upon to be a forwarded email.. could i have not written this myself..?

magnum magnumOG 2001

Because this one seems to be written by someone who sounds somewhat smart and has good writing skills. :)

tpham tphamOG 2001

and how does that differ from me

magnum magnumOG 2001

umm cause your the exact opposite!

tpham tphamOG 2001

if thats what you think.

iwz iwz

of course you could have written it yourself, and i would have had absolutely no problem posting it if you did. like your "Weird Experience" story. i love posting original content on this site.

but, for some reason, this one just "felt" like one of "those" emails. so, sorry, man, i hope there's no hard feelings. it's just hard to strike a balance and make a good decision about what to post and what not to post without changing the "feeling" of this site. but, hey, it's not like i am just overflowing with submissions to post, so i'll take what i can get.

and to tell the truth, without guys like you, and everybody else on this site, i would still be stuck here spending hours trying to find something interesting to post. so, thank you!

tpham tphamOG 2001

thursday.. dinner and a movie ?

magnum magnumOG 2001

You cheating on me?

thefunkyfresh thefunkyfreshFounder

your site rocks, everybody loves it. you're right about striking a balance, and i like the fact that different people are posting things all the time now, it keeps it interesting.

tesoro tesoroOG 2001

this reminded me of the twilight zone episode.."kick the can" the premise behind it was kinda the same...it was that the only reason you get older is cause you stop doing kid stuff...if you kept doing kid stuff ur whole life, you'd never get older.

tpham tphamOG 2001

I REMEMBER THE EPISODE !! WOW.. that was like 10 years ago.. !! THANKS JANO.. man... such a good one

web-toedchloe web-toedchloeOG 2001

I like the one where there's a man who loves to read, and then everyone is destroyed by an A-bomb, but he's left with all the books he wants. Then he breaks his glasses.

tpham tphamOG 2001

Dang... di.. i remember that one too !!! see it's strange because i've only seen maybe 4 total twilight zone episodes and from what i remember :

1: A bomb one

2: Kick the can

3: Pig face people beautiful normal woman who should be ugly

4: Humans in a zoo on different planet

thats about it...

tesoro tesoroOG 2001

man,i have seen like EVERY twilight zone episode, i love em!

i think one of my favorites is "the dummy" it was really scary! or or! the hitchhiker! nother good one!

we always taped them during the new years marathon... so if any of ya wanna see one...im sure we got it! :)

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nine9starOG 2001

lol i actually thought this was like a personal experience of typhams - rofl, roll on the blonde jokes :-D


i thought that was really sweet

tpham tphamOG 2001

I'm going to make a promise that i'm going to be the coolest old man..

i'm growing old but i will never grow up

tpham tphamOG 2001

we have 80 years of life..

why be mature when you reach 20.. why not be mature when you reach 40.. that way you can have stupid fun for a much longer time.. it's better for you.. you'd probably live longer..

N
nine9starOG 2001

not if the new system beats you too it!

legs legsFounder

I LOOOOVE this story! I totaly want to be like that lady when I get old! Plus...I love Chocolate milkshakes!!

tpham tphamOG 2001

if you want to be like that lady.. then you think i'm handsome.. and I SCORE!

legs legsFounder

YOU HANDOME DEVIL YOU!!!!

tpham tphamOG 2001

handome ? is that some wierd twisted way to discribe my hand looking like dome ?

N
nine9starOG 2001

lol no she's blonde - yeaaaaaah lol

legs legsFounder

I'm sorry! Hansome! thats you! and me being blonde...thats a different story...

legs legsFounder

HANDSOME!!! AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!

N
nine9starOG 2001

handsome hun, there really is no excuse for getting it wrong twice - oh yeah there is ur blonde :D

legs legsFounder

sigh... I'll never get it right... Handome hansome handsome! whats the diff!

g.f.s.rocks g.f.s.rocksOG 2001

Aright, Aright Im here..you did yell Handsome right? So Im here, how can I help??

legs legsFounder g.f.s.rocks

Handsome was definately yelled, but I don't get why your here??? belive me, this time its not a blond thing...

legs legsFounder g.f.s.rocks

Handsome was definately yelled, but I don't get why your here??? belive me, this time its not a blond thing...

g.f.s.rocks g.f.s.rocksOG 2001 legs

Oh trust me...Legs, when you start yellin Handsome, I know your talking about me :)

legs legsFounder g.f.s.rocks

hahaha~why on earth would I do that for!!?!?!?!?!?!

g.f.s.rocks g.f.s.rocksOG 2001 legs

ummmm....because your blonde :)

N
nine9starOG 2001 g.f.s.rocks

so when any blonde yells handsome - its only meant for you?

g.f.s.rocks g.f.s.rocksOG 2001 nine9star

Oh yes...you didnt know that??

N
nine9starOG 2001 g.f.s.rocks

no i didnt lol interesting info

g.f.s.rocks g.f.s.rocksOG 2001 nine9star

Well, now you know :) So, dont hold back!!

N
nine9starOG 2001 g.f.s.rocks

oh handsome? ;) lol

g.f.s.rocks g.f.s.rocksOG 2001 nine9star

Yes 9, You rang?? :)

magnum magnumOG 2001

I didnt even go past the first paragraph.... BORRRINNGGG!

krod krodOG 2001

"if youre bored then youre boring"

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nine9starOG 2001

hmmm what a profooooound statement rofl

magnum magnumOG 2001

Maybe but im still having fun :)

rocksupastar rocksupastarFounder

I think this is a cool story ty... i like it even thought it IS just a forwarded email....

tpham tphamOG 2001

how do you know that it's another forwarded email ? did you ever get it ?

rocksupastar rocksupastarFounder

cause your dumb, thats why...

tpham tphamOG 2001

yea and i'm dating your girl behind your back..

magnum magnumOG 2001

Ouch thats gotta hurt :P

rocksupastar rocksupastarFounder

hahaha.... really? AWESOME for you!!!!

tpham tphamOG 2001

i know .. she's awesome.. smart.. hott.. geez what more would a man want.. can she cook ?

N
nine9starOG 2001

I think Typham justed posted this because rose said "hi Handsome" and he wanted every1 to think she was talkin about him!!!!

magnum magnumOG 2001

HAHAHA thats a good one ;)

tpham tphamOG 2001

....... ..SOmetimes

N
nine9starOG 2001

ha ha what did u mean by that?

thefunkyfresh thefunkyfreshFounder

inside joke, inside joke. don't worry about it, it's just a stupid gay thing.

N
nine9starOG 2001

then i wouldnt admit to knowing about it if i were you

g.f.s.rocks g.f.s.rocksOG 2001

Forwarded private e-mails are so NOT COOL!!

N
nine9starOG 2001

has anyone else ever done that? I wrote like quite an 'intimate' email to this guy - nothing sordid! and well instead of emailing it just to him i emailed it to one of my group lists (it was below his name on the hotmail addy list). I was sooooooooo embarrased - to put it mildly

thefunkyfresh thefunkyfreshFounder

awww man! lol, whooops!

N
nine9starOG 2001

lol yeah tell me about it - i didnt leave the house for weeks ha ha

g.f.s.rocks g.f.s.rocksOG 2001

Im sorry to hear that Nine9Star, but this one time, my friend kept on recieving and replying to all, to these e-mail lists, and on one of them he was stating his opinion about someone...but he didnt realize he was on the list...man, that was an interesting situation...Caution to ALL whatch the REPLY TO ALL button!!!

iwz iwz

*gasp!* that was you ?!

thefunkyfresh thefunkyfreshFounder

hahahaha!! beware of reply all!!

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nine9starOG 2001

ha ha busted!!!!

J
jollycandymanOG 2001

I want to be one of those old guys who yell at people to get off his driveway.

N
nine9starOG 2001

ha ha nice career goals there

g.f.s.rocks g.f.s.rocksOG 2001

Hey, at least he has a future there!!

N
nine9starOG 2001

ha ha erm yeah nice future! I mean thats what every kid wants right?

"Mummy, when i grow up i wanna be one of those old guys who yell at people to get off his driveway" ha ha

g.f.s.rocks g.f.s.rocksOG 2001

LOL...you forgot the "Mummy, when i grow up i wanna be one of those old guys who yell at people to get off my driveway with a stick " Part!!

N
nine9starOG 2001

ha ha scary stuff, is that like what all the popular kids want as opposed to the "outcast" kids who would just settle for yelling?

magnum magnumOG 2001

No the outcast kids use a sawed off shotgun instead of a stick :)

g.f.s.rocks g.f.s.rocksOG 2001

Yeah, and the female outcast kids want to chase you around with a cane like that grandma in Paperboy, when you threw a paper at her house!!! I love that game!!

tpham tphamOG 2001

it's always you too making up stupid comments.. QUIT IT !

thefunkyfresh thefunkyfreshFounder

HAHAHA!! yeah me too... and i want to have a my own golf cart too, just so i can drive it around when i go accross the street to visit my pet grass.

tpham tphamOG 2001

i just want to be old.. so that i can have a cool marble cane.. and beat passerby's on the street.. and then start jumping on them like i have epilepsy... and maybe at that time i'll be eating chicken.. so they will have a piece

N
nine9starOG 2001

hm okay have u ever thought of checkin urself into looney hotel??

magnum magnumOG 2001

i think hes goin for the shockvalue thing....

N
nine9starOG 2001

yeah as always :)

tpham tphamOG 2001

so what ? are you say that when i'm old.. i won't be doing those things ? well just to spite you.. I WILL !

tpham tphamOG 2001

I'll even do it now ! just wait until i get a marble cane

magnum magnumOG 2001

here have mine and make sure you get it on video. Id do the same thing if i had a cane, cause it sounds like fun!

tpham tphamOG 2001

You know what i was thinking .. it'd be pretty bad if you were old and you wore DEPENDS.. just imagine a nurse lifting your legs to put baby powder on you . after she changed your diapers.. so weird.. it's like. you're in a strange world where little babies have become old men..

iwz iwz

aw, dude, that's really sad and depressing. thanks a lot! :/

tpham tphamOG 2001

it's not that sad.. it's just weird.. man. if that ever happened to me .. i'll probably get rectumoscopy and just remove my bowels. and implant an electronic garbage disposal of some sort in my belly

legs legsFounder

What other brands of diapers do adults wear besides Depends? That seems to be the BIG name. ARE there even any other brands???? hmmm....

tpham tphamOG 2001

i'm thinkind depends is a monopoly.. i've never seen any others.. then again i haven't gone shopping for big diapers.. so i wouldn't know.. ask IAN

legs legsFounder

hahahahaha. Well, I think they probably have "the shop rite brand" you know, the same exact thing at 1/2 the cost

tpham tphamOG 2001

i dont think i'd trust shop right DIAPERS.. just imagine a big CART symbol on your buttocks.. man.. you're friends can make fun of you for years with that.

legs legsFounder

that'd be quite an embarassment to say the least. Youd go around being called "cart butt" or "diapers on wheels" by all the peop;le in ICU. haha

tpham tphamOG 2001

and not to mention how annoying it would get after you hear " hey buddy, can i push your cart" every 5 seconds.

thefunkyfresh thefunkyfreshFounder

LOL... yeah, A&P americas choice diapers, they're called dependos

tpham tphamOG 2001

are you seriuos ? it's like calling doritos .. doritotos

legs legsFounder

I think were taking this depends (DEPENDOS) thing alittle too far...(oh how I love it!)

tpham tphamOG 2001

Are all depends pullups ? or are they only for the more grown up old people..i wonder if they also have super absorbent wings.

g.f.s.rocks g.f.s.rocksOG 2001

Super Absorbent Wings..Thats great...lol...what are they supposed to do, fly!..lol

tpham tphamOG 2001

you don't know about wings ? flaps on the sides of diapery things that hold in the sides..

g.f.s.rocks g.f.s.rocksOG 2001 tpham

Oh so they are grips...

tpham tphamOG 2001 g.f.s.rocks

grips don't sound to good.. they're not like vice grips that keep your buttocks in line.. they are more like FLAPS that absorb..

thefunkyfresh thefunkyfreshFounder tpham

ohhhhh, kinda like absorbant "wings?"

tpham tphamOG 2001 thefunkyfresh

thats what i said.. but GFS just doesn't understand !

g.f.s.rocks g.f.s.rocksOG 2001 tpham

absorbant wings?? what do they absorb? Sweat?

tpham tphamOG 2001 g.f.s.rocks

ok , now you're just pulling my chain either that or you're a complete moron.

magnum magnumOG 2001 tpham

id have to to with the later of the above statement for him :)

g.f.s.rocks g.f.s.rocksOG 2001 magnum

Thanks, thanks for the support...at least Im not blonde....

N
nine9starOG 2001 g.f.s.rocks

okay i deliberatly refrained from this conversation (for obvious reasons)

but i had to say what on EARTH is wrong with being blonde BUCKO

g.f.s.rocks g.f.s.rocksOG 2001 nine9star

Oh, nothing, personally, I like blondes more than I do brunettes or any other type of hair color...I think they have more fun, look at you for example? You seem to have fun all the time... so dont take offense when I do the "its because your blonde" thing, its all done out of fun dear....

N
nine9starOG 2001 g.f.s.rocks

ha ha ha ha, keep digging mister ;)

g.f.s.rocks g.f.s.rocksOG 2001 nine9star

digging, I didnt know I was digging...do you have a shovel :)

N
nine9starOG 2001 g.f.s.rocks

okay u either dont have that saying in the states or ur just being cockey mister - choose wisely

g.f.s.rocks g.f.s.rocksOG 2001 nine9star

ummm, I dont have the saying in the states?? Hows that?

N
nine9starOG 2001 g.f.s.rocks

you dont have the saying "keep digging"?

its when you say something you shouldnt cos it sounded wrong or something

and you try and "dig" yourself out!

magnum magnumOG 2001 nine9star

man you gus should take this to chat, every story has like 8 postings from you 2 every day! Go find a telephone or somethin!

g.f.s.rocks g.f.s.rocksOG 2001 nine9star

Oh we do... but its more commonly used as keep fishing... but I get it....your all confusing for a sophisticated mind :)

N
nine9starOG 2001 g.f.s.rocks

u? a sophisticated mind ha ha lol

g.f.s.rocks g.f.s.rocksOG 2001 nine9star

Hey, Im a very sophisticated individual...you just dont know it yet, but you'll see!!

N
nine9starOG 2001 g.f.s.rocks

yeah that i still have to see

g.f.s.rocks g.f.s.rocksOG 2001 nine9star

Oh you will...trust me you will!!

N
nine9starOG 2001 g.f.s.rocks

okay that just sounded pure evil lol

g.f.s.rocks g.f.s.rocksOG 2001 nine9star

An evil g.f.s. rocks? (saying it in the Dr. Evil tone from Austin Powers, while my pinky is pointed towards my mouth)

punkprincess punkprincessOG 2001 g.f.s.rocks

sooooooooo annoying! all these conversations...

g.f.s.rocks g.f.s.rocksOG 2001 punkprincess

Between only two people??

thefunkyfresh thefunkyfreshFounder

now that's just sick talk there... and i was kidding about dependos

tpham tphamOG 2001

obviuosly.. but you know what.. it is hard to pick up SARCASM out of lettes... you can't read sarcasm.. it's all visiual and audio...

J
jollycandymanOG 2001 tpham

Ha that's a real good one.

J
jollycandymanOG 2001

Your all visual and audio

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