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Secret Warfare of Teenage Girls

sux2beme by sux2beme · Apr 17, 2002 · Poll · 338 views

A recent story ran on Dateline NBC about an underground warfare that teenage girls wage on one another.

You can see the story with video here.


What's your opinion?

  1. Did you experience this in High School?
  2. ...what about after High School?
  3. Were you a victim?
  4. ...or a bully?
  5. ...or both?
  6. Do you see this behavior in the congregation?
  7. ...across multiple congregations?
  8. Have you talked to your parents about this?
  9. ...teachers/counselors?
  10. ...friends you have outside of school?
  11. ...husbands/wives?

When I watched the video, I saw alot of comments about the difficulties of making good friends. They were the same complaints that I remembered seeing in the video: "Young People Ask: How Can I Make Real Friends?" How do you make real friends?

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57 Comments

magnum magnumOG 2001

welp since im not a girl i can't answer this question accurately. But from what i have seen girls are evil. Its amazing what they can do to other girls they dont like. Manipulative, controlling and other thoughts come to mind. Im not saying all are like this but you always gotta watch them, some are pretty shady.

punkprincess punkprincessOG 2001

theres basically only one girl that i constantly "feud" with... and its b/c that girl constantly says things to make me look like a loser... and does it on purpose.. now she lives far far away... its all tea cakes and flowers from here on out

punkprincess punkprincessOG 2001

but in highskool... there was only one girl who hated me too... hahaha that was cuz her friend knew that he was gonna get beat up by this guy i knew, and i warned him... and he told her that i threatened him... hahahahahhahahaha drama of high skool! so funny!

ilikebirds ilikebirdsOG 2002

anna and micha . hahaha so funny.

punkprincess punkprincessOG 2001

LOL that was in slowtech not stevens haha

seit2see seit2seeOG 2002

how do i make friends? simple..
First, I bring a firearm, any kind will do.. then i go up to the potential "friend" and say: "if you won't be my friend, i will shoot you in the face". I haven't been turned down once!!!

ilikebirds ilikebirdsOG 2002

once i joined the CIA in school . i was good. no one wanted to mess with us.

sux2beme sux2bemeOG 2002

were those Classes In Asian?

thatdarngirl thatdarngirlOG 2002

I wanna be Asian!

magnum magnumOG 2001

yeah i want a pet asian too ;)

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goldmineOG 2002

but your asian,

Caucasian Invasion Association (CIA)

thatdarngirl thatdarngirlOG 2002

girls are horrible. that's all there really is to it. i've seen both my sisters crushed because of the way their 'best' girlfriends have treated them. i've hated almost all of my girlfriends at one point or another just because we're soo awful to each other. it's absurd. just because you're not the pretty one, the skinny one, the best dancer, the best fliter, the one who all the boys like..they don't want to be near you. the worst part is, girls in middle school and high school will settle for such horrible treatment because they just want friends. don't give in to people who treat you badly, everyone deserves to be treated nicely. i've been a jerk to a lot of people, and i later see my mistakes. i feel bad for the girls who never do see their mistakes and are left friendless when their 'friends' (the ones they talk about behind their back every day at lunch) leave them behind.

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crazygirlOG 2001

sooo true!! girls in middle school are so so wenchy. they get in stupid fights and call each other names and you can really tell that it hurts the other person. Like you said to, people who will do anything to fit in or be friends w/ the "popular" kids, i feel bad for them. they get pushed around the most. Even when your as nice as can be, some girls are just really nasty and immature. hopefully everyone grows out of it though...

legs legsFounder

All women are nasty. from age 5; fighting over swings to 13; fighting over boy friends to age 95; fighting over their "spot" in line at the grocery store

malibu malibuOG 2001

girls just wanna be liked. we scheeme and do whatever it takes. It basically comes down to all of the standards we put on ourselves. we wanna be this, we wanna be that, we wanna be everything but us. having people like us makes us feel like it's okay to be us for a little while. trying to be popular it just something to do to make more fake friends to make you feel better. I used to wanna be popular but then i remembered all the girls in the grade who were popular were that way for "moving around" with all the guys in the grade. girls all have really low self esteem. well not all.

magnum magnumOG 2001

Cause girls are evil

However neccessary ;)

thatdarngirl thatdarngirlOG 2002

they are..pure evil. i would know, I LEAD THEM ALL!!!!!!!!!

sux2beme sux2bemeOG 2002

i think we're getting alot of insight from all these comments. i hope u guys are taking notes!!!

thatdarngirl thatdarngirlOG 2002

How to make new friends? Well...within the congregation (or the little cluster of them up here that all have like one group kind of) that was hard. Of course, it was hard because I was really shy back then, still am a little bit, but you have to be willing to put yourself out and just walk up to people and talk. If they're to cool to even bother with you, they're obviously not worth it, and you shouldn't worry about it then either because they're not the kind of friends you want. I went to this party in PA this summer, and if I even tried to talk to anyone it was instantly "What bands do you like" (a common question I understand) but if you didn't reply with what the person liked it was like "oh..bye". In school, I think all it takes is sharing the same distaste for a teacher/class and taking it from there.

magnum magnumOG 2001

well at least they didn't shout out "can you believe this person likes this? Toss her in the pool!"

ilikebirds ilikebirdsOG 2002

I love all women!

thefunkyfresh thefunkyfreshFounder

EEWWWWWW!!! cooties!!!!

rocksupastar rocksupastarFounder

hahaha... i think i used to be with joe on girls are total evil. Cause, sorry, most of them are. Girls are supposed to have this uncanny emotional side that feels for people or whatever.. blah blah blah, all that does is aid them in screwing around with guys more then just on the physical side NOW they can do it on the mental as well. But then again there are these sweet girls that REALLY are GENUINE and HONEST about everything, which really is a good thing. Last year though, man, i was throughly convinced that girls were the spawn of satan... actually, now that i think about it, every girl that i know on eZabel seems to be very nice... well cept for amanda and tina.... they are crazies...

magnum magnumOG 2001

haha yeah alot of them are wacked, and to find any that are trusthworthy just seems a wee bit to time consuming these days. At least most guys will tell you they hate your guts to your face instead of all the stuff girls pull.

punkprincess punkprincessOG 2001

woah there....? whats going on with that?

rocksupastar rocksupastarFounder

hahaha, aww im kidding tinner!

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nine9starOG 2001

all i have to say is that girls are evil

I have had this happen to me and yes im ashamed to say i've done it to others

Teachers don't know how to deal with it or stop it, the only way to really win over is to be the b*t*h*e*t and well i learnt to be pretty good at that

the way i delt with it was to find a true group of friends, and yes it may still go on at small levels, but it an easily be dealt with and things are mostly teacakes and flowers ;)

mandie mandieOG 2001

yah we suck. haha... j/k

thefunkyfresh thefunkyfreshFounder

i just read that article. man... girls are stupid.

theremin thereminOG 2002

I met this one sweet girl at the eZabel shindig. Altho, I didn't ask for her dígitos.. which I now regret.

legs legsFounder

tryin to get her didgits????

theremin thereminOG 2002

correct-o-mundo :)

malibu malibuOG 2001

if she was at the party, she must be ezabel so just send her an emessaage asking for her didgits.

sux2beme sux2bemeOG 2002

español?  

iwz iwz

nice "ñ"!

sux2beme sux2bemeOG 2002

*waving* thank you, thank you, i'm here all week. no, REALLY, i'm out of work and have no money and no place to go, so i'll be right HERE all week.

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nine9starOG 2001

yeah i'd noticed :P

sux2beme sux2bemeOG 2002

hey, wasn't the knife in my back enough? u have to stick one in my heart too...?

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nine9starOG 2001

muah ha ha ha haaaaaaaaa

sux2beme sux2bemeOG 2002

truly e-VIL u silly cow!

punkprincess punkprincessOG 2001

"moooooo" hahahaha!

tesoro tesoroOG 2001 punkprincess

chang changity chang

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nine9starOG 2001

well gee thanks you warthog

sux2beme sux2bemeOG 2002 nine9star

cow: Derogatory, but often used less aggressively, as an affectionate aside, as in 'silly cow', see also 'moo'. :p

iwz iwz sux2beme

HAHAHAH the tenth definition on that page... sooo funny.

sux2beme sux2bemeOG 2002 iwz

as u can c...that definition originated in the US...;)

malibu malibuOG 2001 sux2beme

did anyone see that movie "someone like you" when they discuss the old cow theory which wouold not be a good thing.

tesoro tesoroOG 2001 malibu

YES! i totally and utterly LOVED that movie! so good!

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nine9starOG 2001 tesoro

not totally and udderly???

ha ha im sorry, had to be done ;)

tesoro tesoroOG 2001 nine9star

hahaha! ya JERK!

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crazygirlOG 2001 malibu

i was have sleeping watching that soo... hahaha. your like laughing histarical while i was like yeah.. sleeepp.lol

punkprincess punkprincessOG 2001 malibu

LOL THAT WAS SO GOOD! i loved that movie!!!

iwz iwz malibu

jumping jacks!

magnum magnumOG 2001

YOU ARE ALL OFF TOPIC

punkprincess punkprincessOG 2001

CLOSE YOUR TAGS!!!!!!!!

magnum magnumOG 2001

read the source !

thatdarngirl thatdarngirlOG 2002

yeah..soo..the secret warfare of teenage girls eh?

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